Many women will rationalize that
their guy isn’t one of the do not
date guys because they like him
and they want him to buck the
trend. And of course, it’s possible
that a particular guy is actually a good guy even if he exhibits
some of these characteristics.
However, most of the time, “if it
looks like a duck and walks like a
duck, it’s usually a duck!” Take a look at this list and really
ask yourself if your guy is on it.
And if he is, what do you want to
do about it? 1. Mr. Serial Monogamist This guy goes from relationship
to relationship but never winds up
marrying anyone. He “seems”
committed and ready to go the
distance, but he never does. My
biggest concern with this guy is what will make you be the woman
who will get him to actually
commit when he never has with
any of the others? 2. Mr. Comes On Too Fast Too
Quickly This guy met you yesterday and
talks about moving in together
today. You had your second date
with him on Tuesday and on
Wednesday, he is inviting you to
family dinner. Of course, his interest feels wonderful, after all,
you are fabulous. But, let’s call a spade a spade, he
doesn’t even know you yet, so
how can he actually know how
fab you really are? Be wary. 3. Mr. Commitmentphobe This guy is just scared of
commitment period. He might
have abandonment issues which
have made him scared to commit
to anyone in fear they will leave
him. He will usually admit to you upfront that he has commitment
issues but he has worked on
them and is “certain” he is ready
to commit this time around. My concern with him is that 9
times out of 10, he is just a time
suck of your precious time when
you could be finding another guy. 4. Mr. Bobber and Weaver This guy is shady. He never
answers your questions directly.
His work situation is shady, his
divorce situation shady, his
apartment situation shady. He
just bobs and weaves through answers. This guy is a charlatan.
Move on. 5. Mr. Excuse This is the guy who breaks plans,
behaves inappropriately and does
things to offend you and then
always has an excuse as to why
he did it. Fine, give him a hall
pass, once or twice but after awhile, you need to face facts. The facts are that his guy is an
adult and he knows it’s wrong to
hit on your best friend, get drunk
in front of your boss or tell you
that you need to lose weight
when you are a size 6. Next! 6. Mr. Showers You With
Presents This guy is swarmy. Yes, gifts
are nice, we all like them.
However, what are these gifts
replacing or covering up? Are
they buying your forgiveness
gifts? Are they keeping you hooked a little longer even though
he hasn’t proposed yet gifts? Or
are you one of the lucky ones
who found a guy who is good to
you and also gives gifts? Just don’t be lured in by Chanel
Bags and trips to Paris on a whim
if that is all that is coming your
way. 7. Mr. Been Around The Block This guy has dated everyone you
know and their mother, literally.
Do you really want to date
everyone’s used laundry? And
why does he play the field so
much? Is he insecure? Does he not want a real relationship?
Does he just like adding notches
to his proverbial belt? I don’t know the answers to these
questions but if I were you, I
wouldn’t want to stick around to
find out. 8. Mr. Compares You To His
Exes This guy is not over his ex. If he
is comparing you to her all the
time, then he still wants her. He
may say he is over her, but he’s
not. Don’t rationalize that all men
compare their present gals to
their ex’s because they do NOT.
They might do it occasionally in
their heads but they certainly
don’t do it out loud and they certainly don’t do it all the time.
Ask yourself: Do you feel like you
will be his future or will “she” be
coming back? 9. Mr. Controlfreak This guy has mommy issues and
that makes him want to control
everything, including your life.
You are an adult, don’t you want
to make your own decisions? Do
you honestly want someone to tell you what to wear, what to
eat, where you can go and who
you can spend time with? I doubt
it. Do you constantly want to be
criticized? This guy has a problem with
everything and no matter what
you do, it will never be good
enough for him. Run! 10. Mr. Alcoholic This guy is a drunk. He might tell
you that he is a “social drinker”
but you know the difference. He
might say everyone drinks as
much as he does. No. They. Do.
Not. And when this guy gets drunk, which is often, he gets
mean and nasty. He will make
you cry and feel like crap, a lot.
He is not a good look for you
