16 signs it’s time to move on and end the
relationship
So are you happy or unhappy in love? Here
are 16 clear signs that can help you
understand if you’re in a relationship that
isn’t worth holding on to. Can you relate to
at least a few of these signs in your own
relationship? All of us have our own
thresholds when it comes to sacrifices and
enduring pain in the hope of a better
relationship. But if you feel like you’re
fighting a losing battle while trying to bring
happiness into your romance, ask yourself if
you see these signs in your own love life.
#1 The spark is missing. You don’t know why
you’re in the relationship anymore. The
romance is missing, there’s no chemistry or
companionship, and both of you just exist in
each other’s lives without any special
reason. Sometimes, you secretly wonder why
both of you are even together in the first
place?
#2 You’re hurting. You’re misunderstood,
hurt or angry all the time. Sometimes, you
don’t even know why, but just thinking of
your partner hurts you or annoys you. And
sadly, even if you haven’t given this a
thought, you haven’t been happy for a very
long time.
#3 You’re being taken for granted. Your
partner uses you, manipulates your
understanding nature and takes you for
granted, no matter how nice you are to
them. You’ve been doing all the giving, in the
hope that your partner will see how selfless
and loving you are, and change for the
better some day.
#4 You don’t see a future. You’re satisfied
with your relationship, and you’re happy-ish.
But every time you’re alone or try to see
where your relationship is going, your mind
tells you that your relationship has no
future. And as hard as you try to visualize a
perfect tomorrow, you can’t see your
partner as a long-term lover.
#5 Uninvolved. Your partner doesn’t care
enough to play an active part in your life,
nor do they even try to understand your
life. They’re emotionally uninvolved and
unavailable, even when you try to make them
feel involved.
#6 Sexual intimacy. You can’t remember the
last time both of you made love. You’ve
tried your best to bring the sizzle back into
the bedroom, but your partner prefers to
turn the other way and feign sleep. And it
feels worse when you catch your partner
admiring others when both of you are
walking down a street.
#7 What holds both of you together? Are
you in the relationship or marriage only
because of the baggage that holds the both
of you together? If the reason for the
existence of the romantic relationship isn’t
love, then you’re only fooling yourself if you
believe it’ll ever bring you any happiness.
#8 Deep trust issues. You don’t trust your
partner anymore. There may be a genuine
reason for the lack of trust, or perhaps,
both of you just have different
expectations from each other when it comes
to trust and believing in each other. But
unless both of you even the creases on the
issue of trust, the love will only fade, and
never grow.
#9 Different lives. There are no meaningful
conversations between the two of you. You
have nothing to talk about beyond small talk
because your values, vision, and
expectations from life are completely
different from your partner’s views and
both of you haven’t taken the initiative to
find common grounds.
#10 Back to square one. It happens all the
time. There’s a lot of love. And then comes
a big fight. And then both of you
communicate with each other and end the
argument with a lot of love and affection.
And in no time, the same issues crop up all
over again, and the same cycle starts all
over again. Can both of you ever evolve as a
couple if the same issues stagnate your lives
and stops both of you from bonding
together as a couple?
#11 Controlling behavior. People with
insecure personalities don’t always confront
their partner. Instead, they use
manipulation, aggression and subtle
controlling behavior to manipulate you into
believing they’re right and you’re wrong. And
before you know it, you’d feel lost and all
alone because you would lose all your
friends and turn into your partner’s slave.
#12 Individual lives. You think you love your
partner, and you think you’re happy in your
relationship. But yet, both of you just live
together and have nothing in common, and
lead individual lives.
#13 People pleasers. Your partner
constantly goes overboard to please
another person just to impress them and
win their fancy. But they’d never ever do
anything like that for you.
#14 Fault finding. Your partner makes you
feel inadequate in the relationship all the
time. They treat you like you’re not good
enough, and always find faults with
everything you do. They break you
emotionally, and constantly expect you to
change for them because you’re not good
enough!
#15 You don’t enjoy their company. You
dread spending time together with your
partner. You feel comfortable hanging out
with your lover as long as it’s with a group
of friends. But every time you have to
spend some *quality* time together, it
makes you feel uncomfortable.
#16 Respect. Do you respect your partner
as an individual? Does your partner respect
you? For a relationship to be successful,
respect for one another plays a very big
part. If there’s no respect for each other,
then there’s surely no hope for the future.
How many of these signs are you
experiencing right now? And how many of
these are acceptable to you? Now, ask
yourself again, are you happy in love or is it
time to move on and end the relationship?
