It gets real in the field, and
trust isn’t easy to come by.
So after being hurt how do
we know who to trust
again? There’s a few ways I
think:
1. Space – I always believe
falling back and reassessing
ourselves does great things.
If a guy distances himself
from you and legitimately
changes how he lives then
it’s a good sign.
2. Humility – If a guy can
articulate all his wrong
doings and understand why
it was wrong he might be
worth listening to.
3. Patience – If old boy
understands that taking him
back won’t be a one day deal
then that’s reassuring. If he’s
willing to be patient and
take baby steps to get back
where you all once were
then he might be worth it.
4. Creativity – If a man uses
creative (not creepy) ways to
try and get your attention
then maybe that’s a decent
sign. If he steps out of his
comfort zone just to get
your attention then maybe
you can hear him out.
Now to be clear, I’m not
absolving men who
constantly louse up. Stay
away from those. But if a
guy does something wrong
that you think you can get
past in time then give it a
shot. This of course is all
relative to age as well. I’m
25, so my thinking is hey I
still have some growing to
do. I anticipate I will drop
the ball in relationships from
time to time. I’m still
learning. I won’t condone a
35 year old making 25 year
old errors.
Everything we do in life
should be within reason. The
biggest decisions we make
should be within reason.
Your heart is is important
enough to protect. So if you
ever find yourself in this
position take your time with
it. I just wanted it to be
known that boys can
become men. Unfortunately
it takes a f**k up here or
there to really drive that
home. Anyone feel me? Any
ladies ever took back
someone that hurt them?
Did it work out? Fellas, have
you tried to get a woman
back that you lost? If so
what did you do to do it?
These are my words and I
make no apologies.
Source: singleblackmale.org
