When you think of entering
the dating scene at this
stage in your life, you might
be wondering if you’ll even
meet one man who catches
your interest. What you
might find out is that you
don’t just find one great
guy…you find two! Many
mature daters report a
surprising twist-that they
have fallen in love with more
than one guy. So what do
you do when your heart is
being pulled in two
directions? Here are our tips
on what to do when you’re
in love with more than one
man.
1. Take your sweet time.
Nowhere does it say that
you have to decide right
away which man you want
to be with. Have fun! Enjoy
this time getting to know
each guy and seeing how
well you fit into each other’s
lives. The key is being honest
with both men about your
relationship status, and that
yes, you are dating other
people. As both relationships
progress, it will become
evident which man is the
one for you in the long run.
2. Don’t lead them on.
Feeling wanted and sought
after by not just one but
TWO eligible bachelors is a
great feeling, and you might
not want to let that go. It can
be addicting to be such a
hot commodity! But when
you do feel in your heart that
one, or both, men aren’t
right for you, you are going
to have to cut the cord. If
you don’t, you run the risk of
losing them both, because
they feel used and like you
are playing a game with
their hearts.
3. Make a list. Writing down
a list on paper of the pros
and cons of each man can
be a great way to determine
which guy is the one for you.
It’s easy to get swept up in
the emotions and romance
of it all and be blinded to the
hard facts. Sit down and
make a list of the things you
adore about each guy, and
the things that you dislike.
While our hearts don’t
always make the logical
decision, this exercise will at
least guide you to making
the smartest decision.
4. Take them for a test
drive . If you’re hoping to be
in a long term relationship
with one of these men, it’s
crucial to see how they fit
into your day to day life.
Introduce them to your
closest friends and family
and ask for feedback. Do
they like him? Do they see
the two of you being
together for the long haul?
Ultimately, you are the one
who must decide who you
want to be with, but input
from your most trusted and
most importantly, objective
inner circle will help you
determine which man fits
into your life as a whole.
Source: welovedates.com
