1.You can show your love through physical touch
Scientists say that the skin is the largest organ on the human body. The skin is also very sensitive and filled with feel good nerve-endings.
Physically touching your partner lets them feel the love you have for them. The love language of physical
touch includes things like holding your partner’s hand when walking together. If
your partner isn’t the PDA type then you can keep the touching private by cuddling
while watching a movie or after sex, giving your partner a warm hug, a brief squeeze of the shoulder or a light touch on your partner’s back.
2. Share Gifts
Gifts, caringly given, involve thinking about what the other person likes. With gifts, it’s about wanting to make
your partner happy by giving something you know they’ll like or find useful.
Since a gift is an expression of love, and not of how much money you have in the bank, it doesn’t even need to be expensive or something bought in the shop, a shell from the beach or a piece of
sea glass cost nothing but can be great and treasured gifts.. Sometimes it’s about the thoughtfulness and effort behind the gift. So pay attention when your partner speaks, this is a great and easy
way to pick up cues and get gift ideas. And to make things extra special, don’t wait for a special occasion to get a gift. The random and spontaneous gifts are also just as great and
meaningful.
Gifts are symbols of love and appreciation so be creative!
3. Helping Out!
You know the saying “actions speak louder than words”?
Well this means that
sometimes you have to DO things to show your partner just how much they mean to you.
But the trick here is that you must WANT to do these things freely (not being forced or pressured) because when you love someone, you’re willing to step out of your comfort zone and not do things that are good for the relationship. It’s about putting someone else’s needs first.
Being of service means:
going the extra mile to
help your partner with
things like the house
chores,
helping and supporting
your partner with academic work,
taking on your share of
the emotional work in the relationship. Eg. talking about your own emotions and not bottling them up or being bothered about your partner’s feelings.
willingly sharing the
responsibility of looking after your children,
helping the other person to complete a project,
or doing something which makes their life easier and less stressful,
being there for your partner during difficult times like the death of a loved one or when
they’re struggling to find a job and holding hope for them when they are finding this difficult to do for themselves.
4. Words of Love
“I appreciate you”, “Thanks for helping me out the other day”- tell your partner how you feel about them and how you feel about their role in your life.
It is more meaningful if you make your words specific and truthful. Telling someone they are a great person is one thing, but if you say to them that you
think they are a great person because they helped you finish an assignment instead of going out with their
friends makes it more real and believable.
If you’re the extra creative and romantic type, you can even explain your words of
love in a poem or a song.
Saying “I love you” is really important in a relationship if you mean it. However, don’t
overuse it and don’t let it become a habit that has no real meaning. If you say it, mean it and find ways to show that you do mean it.
These kind and encouraging words can help to build your
partner’s self-esteem and let them feel secure in the relationship, but take it
steady and check out with yourself that you can maintain the expectations you are building up in your
partner.
Points to remember:
It’s important to remember that we all express and feel love differently. You might
think by calling your partner every night to say goodnight, they’ll know that you love them when in fact your
partner feels loved and
appreciated through gifts. we tend to show love in the ways we would like to receive it, so it’s worth watching what your partner does
We tend to show love in the ways we would like to receive it, so it’s worth watching your partner's actions and listening to their words, as this is likely to reflect the kind of things they are looking for from you too.
If you’re struggling, then just simply ask your partner to share with you the type of
things that make them feel loved. It might seem like you’re taking the easy way out by asking but we’re sure
they’ll appreciate the effort when you start following through ;).especially if you also check out from time to
time whether it is working for them too.
There are quite a few options to choose from. You know
your partner, pick the one that would appeal most to your partner!
