When love takes over, it takes over completely
and carries along your common sense with it.
You find yourself bending backwards to
accommodate someone new into your life and
you won’t mind because you love them.
It’s good when love takes over and you accept
someone good into your life but sometimes
you ignore the bad habits because of love.
This could be because you hope the situation
will improve in marriage or because the love is
still blinding you.
Marriage has a way of waking you up from the
blindness of love and revealing the deepest
secrets people have. So one day you may
wake up and find that the ‘cute’ things your
husband does are actually very bad habits of
a stingy person.
If you do find out he is stingy, find ways to
help him be more giving or seek couples
therapy to discuss his problems and bring him
closer to change.
If you are still blinded by love and want to be
sure, here are five signs of a stingy husband
that you need to know.
1. He relates things down to money
You talk to him about different things in your
life but he always seems to conclude the
conversation with money. It’s about how you
could have earned money in the day or how
the person you are talking about could have
saved money.
He will also come to you with different money-
making schemes and you will lose track of
them. So you will end up hearing how much
money he could be making or how you can be
a part of the plan.
2. Mentioning buying something new is like a
taboo
When you mention you want something new, it
is like world war three to him. He cannot
understand what is wrong with your old
clothes, shoes and old things.
He loves old things and sees no reason to
spend me expensive things. So if you are a
lady who likes fashion or shopping, you end
up saving your own money or window
shopping in silence.
3. He tries to fix things plenty times before
agreeing to buy a new one
It could be something very cheap but if it is
fixable, he will offer to buy parts first before a
new one. You will tell him getting a new one is
better in the long run but he only judges it
from the option which involves him parting
with the least money.
So you end up managing things that are
already on their last legs. It will be door
handles, furniture, phones and even cars. You
will be suffering while he is there thinking of
the fortune he has saved.
4. When you need emergency money, you
dread asking him
Different things will happen and you may need
to break the bank to solve it. Most of the
time, these things medical emergencies or
when something you need to pay for becomes
more expensive.
When this happens, you will panic over
spending money but you find most of your
panic is over his reaction. You dread telling
him about it or dread him spending the money
because you already know you will not hear
the end of it.
5. He looks for cheap places to go to
As a wife, you deserve to be pampered and
wined and dined. However, you may find that
your husband has no time for that and if he
does, he looks for cheap places.
If you do go somewhere nice, he will exclaim
at the menu and the prices and embarrass you
there. If he bill comes with service charge, he
will cause a ruckus over it and you will have
to sit down there and watch it.
Or you find that you are always splitting the
bill with him because his main focus is to
save money and not to spoil you.
