I believe that healing after
betrayal is possible. The
main point is to be patient
enough to deal with anger
and grief after the betrayal.
This break of trust seems to
be the most disgusting thing
in the world. It has broken a
great number of friendships
and marriages. Moreover,
this process can seriously
affect your self-esteem and
make you experience a
depression, especially if it
happens suddenly.
You may discover a betrayal
over time. First of all, you
begin to notice a series of
lies and then suspect your
partner of betrayal, because
the respect and trust are
already broken. It seems to
be impossible to forgive the
person who has destroyed
your love and your world.
However, you shouldn’t lose
your heart since this
negative experience may
help you grow emotionally
and get rid of bad and
insincere people.
While recovering from
betrayal isn’t an easy thing, I
hope these tips will help you
overcome this life difficulty.
1. Tell about your pain
One of the most important
steps in dealing with
betrayal recovery is to tell the
offender about your pain
and feelings. Explain to them
that they have hurt you and
you are going through
tough times at the moment.
By all means, try to keep
yourself well in hand and
avoid scandals, because it
may worsen your emotional
state. You will let them know
that you cannot trust them
again. They should become
aware of the actions they
have done and feel the
responsibility for this
difficult situation.
2. Accept your emotions
Unfortunately, different
kinds of betrayal can force
you to experience a wide
range of negative emotions.
These are confusion, anger,
sadness and others. You
shouldn’t reject these
emotions. It’s desirable to
accept things you are
suffering from, no matter
how difficult it can be. Don’t
conceal your grief, because
it’s normal to face negative
emotions. If you know what
you feel, you have more
chances to rethink and let
your problems go away.
3. Take it easy
Don’t cry and don’t avoid
communication with others.
It’s desirable to give yourself
some period of time to
grieve before pushing
yourself to move on. It will
clear your mind and help you
let your emotions go away. It
is easier to take right
decisions, when you are
calm and reasonable.
Moreover, you need time to
comprehend the conflict and
realize what to do next.
4. Boost your self-
confidence
Self-confidence is one of the
most significant things that
help you hold out against
the betrayal. Build a good
self-esteem reminding
yourself that you’re a
wonderful person. Focus on
your positive qualities and
achievements and don’t let
such challenge as betrayal
spoil your beautiful life. Self-
confident people are well
resistant to problems,
because they believe in
themselves and their
abilities. Consequently they
have more opportunities to
overcome difficulties since
they don’t depend on others.
Plus, self-confidence will help
you kill negative thoughts.
5. Do things you enjoy
You should try to replace
your grief with positive
emotions. Create a positive
atmosphere around yourself
in order to get rid of the
constant reminders of
negativity. Watch a funny
comedy or take a trip with
your best friends. It will
draw you away from
annoying negative thoughts
and inspire you to do things
that fill your life with new
adventures and happiness.
It’s better to develop an
optimistic vision of the
world. Those people who do
things they enjoy can easily
turn their attention to new
and positive moments.
6. Take your anger under
control
Anger is a slow killer of both
your physical and mental
well-being. This feeling can
also steal your happiness
and develop negative
thinking. Gautama Budha
once said, “Holding on to
anger is like grasping a hot
coal with the intent of
throwing it at someone else;
you are the one who gets
burned.” You should try to
control your anger and
suppress the desire to take
revenge on the person that
hurt you. The control of your
anger will help you avoid
doing stupid actions you
might regret later. Be careful
with anger, because it’s a
dangerous weapon that can
break hearts.
7. Practice forgiveness
Forgiveness is an important
part of emotional growth.
This difficult step will help
you move on and clear your
mind of hatred and anger.
Mahatma Gandhi once said a
wise thing, “The weak can
never forgive. Forgiveness is
the attribute of the strong. “I
realize that it’s difficult to
forgive when your heart
hurts, but you should try to
change your life for better.
Don’t let the past poison
your present moment.
Only a strong desire to
recover from betrayal will
help you start a new life,
because nothing is
impossible. Follow these tips
and hopefully they will help
you forget about the pain of
betrayal in a quite short
period of time. Have you ever
dealt with a betrayal? How
did you recover from it?
Share your thoughts, please.
