You do want a happily ever
after, but sometimes the little
things you do in your
relationship, some of which
you might not even be
aware of, can cause
irreparable harm to your
marriage. Yes, we know that
for a healthy and a happy
marriage, both partners
have to work towards it
equally. But, there are certain
things that women can keep
in check from their end, to
ensure that they do not ruin
their relationship.
So, here are some of the
things that women do,
which can destroy a
marriage. And, also some
‘Healthy Marriage’ mantras
that can be used to save a
relationship.
#1. Finding faults all the time
Constructive criticism, if it is
meant to improve the
marriage, is welcome. But, if
you are always obsessing
over the imperfections of
your partner, then you are
walking over troubled water.
Chronic complaining tells
your spouse that you are not
happy with him, and he is
not good enough. You might
not feel this way, but this is
the message you convey
when you are out nit-picking
on his small habits every
now and then. What is even
worse is when you do so in
company of your family and
friends.
#2. Not appreciating him
enough
Lack of appreciation is often
one of the major causes of
resentment in a marriage. It
is easy to take your spouse
for granted. If your partner
is doing something special
to make you happy, and if
you fail to see his efforts and
quibble on small things, then
it will ruin his mood and
ultimately your relationship
too!
#3. Having unreasonable
expectations
Expecting the partner to do
things that are currently
beyond his capacity is the
bane of every marriage.
Putting pressure on him for
things that you yourself
know might not be
reasonable for him to
commit to is a smart way to
erode your relationship
slowly and steadily. Say, if
you want to buy a bigger
house or start a family, but
your husband is not in a
financial or mental state to
commit to such a change.
Well, instead of criticising
him, try to understand his
point of view.
#4. Not nourishing your
bond
You are aware of how
important it is to connect
with your spouse on a daily
basis, but it is easy to forget
when there are kids, career,
and chores to manage. Keep
in mind, physical and
emotional shut down often
leads to a big lack of
intimacy. Withholding
affection from your partner
can cause a major
disconnect that will be hard
to bridge.
#5. Putting others before
him
After marriage, you have a
new family to look after as
well. While you need not
break all ties with your own
family and friends,
understand that these new
relationships are important
as well. If you are always
putting your family or
friends before him or his
family, he might not like it.
#6. Giving the silent
treatment
So, do you always keep your
feelings pent-up and wait
for him to figure out what is
wrong? Well, that is what is
actually wrong! He is not an
expert, who will figure
things out on his own based
on your expressions and
mood. By keeping quiet or
closing communication you
cannot solve any problem or
resolve any issue. What’s
more? Your attitude might
throw him further away
from the issue and the
relationship.
#7. Not giving him space
It is a well-known fact that
men truly love their space
and freedom, and this is one
of the main reasons why
most of them turn
commitment-phobic. Calling
him up every single hour,
getting jealous
unnecessarily, forcing him to
cancel plans with his friends
always- are some common
things that you might be
doing out of love. But, your
attempts to keep your man
hooked to you might actually
make him run away in the
opposite direction.
If you are guilty of any of
these behaviours, you are
putting your marriage at
great risk. We all know that
every relationship has to go
through a fair share of ups
and downs. But, when you
keep certain emotions and
behaviour in check, you can
find a way to make your
relationship last a lifetime
easily!
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