While I would love to sit here and downplay the
importance of SMS texts in relation to “real
life” relationships, I simply cannot.
It’s 2015, and texting is an integral part of our
lives – whether it’s pertaining to our regular ol’
friends or a girlfriend (or boyfriend alike).
Whether we fail to accept it or not, the things
we say through text messages – in many cases
– are equally as important as those said face-
to-face.
Sure, nothing can really ever compare to telling
a girl you love her while looking her dead in the
eyes – still, that isn’t an excuse to throw the
white flag on how you communicate with one
another while you aren’t physically together.
For this reason, you need to be deliberate with
the things you text her. After all, I’m sure you
could relate to receiving a certain text that
managed to brighten up your day after opening
it up.
By putting more effort into the finer points of
your relationship, like random texts
throughout the day, you can show her you’re
truly committed (or interested, if you’re not
quite in the relationship stage yet).
F*ck all that “sending signals” or “waiting for a
sign” talk. If you like her – tell her. By trying to
be too cryptic and mysterious, you might end
up losing her in the process. Save that for the
romantic comedies.
Here are the eight situational texts you should
certainly be mindful of and how to go about
them properly.
1. The “good morning” text
You’re going to want to get a bit creative, here.
Dive into your bag of tricks, as it’s the first thing
she’s going to be waking up to in the morning.
Make sure to stay away from generic sh*t like
“good morning.”
Do you know how many dudes have probably
texted her “good morning”? Exactly. You’re
going to want to separate yourself from the
pack, so to speak – and how are we going to do
that? Bam, we’re gonna throw in a pet name.
Personally, I’ve always been a fan of “good
morning sunshine,” as it paints some pretty
mental imagery. It’s warm, not overly
provocative, and it’s also directly quoted from a
Quasimoto song… so, yeah.
2. The “I had a good time” text
If you genuinely had a good time with a girl –
whether it was on a date or after just meeting
her for the first time somewhere – it’s super
crucial to be vocal about it. Don’t be shy, big
guy. We’re going to have to use our words.
Remember, if you don’t say anything, how will
she know? Having said that, we all don’t have to
be wordsmiths like Hank Moody in order to
express ourselves.
Keep it short and sweet and straight to the
point. If you had fun with her, just say, “Hey, I
really had fun with you last night.”
It shouldn’t really matter how specifically you
choose to articulate it – as long as you’re clear-
cut about your feelings. The ability to vocalize
your emotions will show confidence, and girls
will eat that sh*t up.
3. The “I’m just thinking about you” text
You’ll have to be wary of how liberal you are
with this type of text. If you overuse it, you’ll
risk making yourself sound a little bit creepy.
I mean, think about it; If her feelings aren’t 100
percent matched, it might make her a little bit
uncomfortable knowing you’re “thinking about
her” with any great frequency.
Then again, if she’s into you – the same way
you’re into her – this type of text will pay off in
spades. It’ll tell show her she’s truly making an
impact on your day-to-day, and you’re sensitive
enough to recognize and appreciate it.
4. The “this is what makes you special to
me” text
If there’s one thing women will always love –
aside from diamonds and surprise-Beyoncé
albums – it’s a compliment. Along these lines, if
there are certain aspects about your girl you’re
specifically into, don’t be afraid to let her know.
If anything, you should be more afraid of what
you don’t say. A lot of times, men will try and
play it cool, and women will mistake that for
apathy.
A random text letting her know you think she’s
pretty or like the way she dresses can go a long
way in letting her know you’re interested.
5. The “I miss you” text
I wouldn’t necessarily recommend this text if
you’re in the early stages of the dating ball
game, however, if you’ve been in a relationship
with someone for a long period of time – it’s
natural to miss her a little when you’re gone
(cue Drake voice).
And if you do miss your significant other, it
can’t hurt to let her know. Your girl will always
love hearing you’re yearning for her, wherever
you might be, and it will always make her feel
special. You want your girl to feel special, don’t
you?
6. The “I love you” text
Once you and your girl are on firm “I love you”
terms, be generous with your application of the
phrase.
I can’t really think of a time of the day when a
lady wouldn’t enjoy being told she’s loved,
especially by someone who she’s expected to
love, in return.
7. The “how was your day” text
Usually, this text is tossed around in casual
conversation with people you don’t really care
about.
You know, you might see someone on the train
(who you’d honestly rather not speak to), and
you ask how his or her day went – solely to
avoid any awkward silence for the remainder
of your journey together.
When you send this text to a girl you like – and
your intentions are genuinely to find out how
her day went – suddenly this text takes new
shape.
When you ask how her day went, it’s one of the
realest methods of showing a girl you actually
care. After all, if you didn’t, I’m sure you
wouldn’t care to know how her day went.
8. The “I’m sorry” text
When you’re invested in a relationship with
someone, disputes are bound to arise. Hey,
we’re humans, and humans are entitled to their
own opinions – it’s just the nature of the
business.
Once conflict arises, however, it’s important to
extinguish it properly, so to speak.
If you have feelings for a woman, it’s best to try
and take control over these conflicts yourself,
as to not leave anything to chance.
If you’re feeling uncomfortable about an
argument the two of you might’ve had earlier,
just take the initiative and apologize – even if
there’s been some awkward silence for the past
few hours.
This will show her you’re mature enough to
swallow your pride for the good of your
relationship, and she’ll always appreciate that.
@pizzaro, how va? U don send ur bae any of this. Yes register fit work na.
