People get into relationships with hope that it
would last for a very long time, but that isn’t
always the case sometimes.
When a relationship becomes unbearable due
to certain unpleasant circumstances, then you
might consider ending it.
So how do you know when to quit a
relationship that’s not working? Here are
eight signs you need to look out for:
1. Infidelity: While you may give your partner a
second chance if they cheat on you, you may
also need to consider letting them go when
this becomes a regular occurence. The first
time may be a mistake, but repeated acts of
infidelity is inexcusable and you don’t have
to put up with such a person. Someone who
hurts your feelings over and over again does
not love you, so you need to let them go.
2. Physical Abuse: If your partner hits you once,
there’s a chance it can happen again.
Whether it happened when your partner was
drunk or during a heated argument, this is a
real cause for concern. You might decide to
forgive and forget, but you will always live
with that emotional scar. A person who has
no emotional and physical restraints is a
time bomb waiting to explode. Save yourself
the trouble and end the relationship.
3. Negative Addiction: You cannot have a
fruitful relationship with a person who is
perpetually high on drugs or alcohol. Sooner
or later, they’ll drag you into their fuzzy world
of addiction. A person who you cannot carry
on a normal conversation with because their
heads are always in the cloud, isn’t worth
your time.
4. Deception: A partner who tells lies every time
is not someone that can be trusted. Of what
use is your partner if you can never get a
truthful response from them on simple
matters? If you only hear the truth about
something your partner did or said from
other people, then it would be wise for you to
drop this person before you drown in a sea of
lies.
5. Poor Communication: One of the keys to a
lasting relationship is communication.
However, if you find yourself in a relationship
where you and your partner hardly talk or
have nothing to say to each other when you
are together, something is terribly wrong. If
you cannot carry on a normal discussion
without resorting to arguments and fights,
then you two will do better apart than
together.
6. Disrespect: Respect is reciprocal – to receive
it, you have to first give it. This has nothing
to do with age, but more to do with courtesy.
A relationship where the two people involved
talk nasty to each other or treat one another
like rivals, is one that needs to end. Note that
respect comes naturally in a loving
relationship. This means a lack of mutual
respect in your relationship indicates a short
supply of love.
7. You’ve Grown Apart: Perhaps the fire in your
relationship has died down after years of
being together. There’s still a chance of
revival in this kind of situation – take a trip
together, do the exciting things that made
your relationship fun in the past or go for
counselling. If none of these works, then it’s
possible you two are tired of the relationship
or simply grown apart. At this point, it’s fine
to start considering a breakup.
8. It’s All About S*x: If all you and your partner
get into is s*x, s*x and more s*x, there’s a
major problem. Do you only connect when
you’re in bed? Does your conversation only
revolves around s*x? Obviously, this is a
Friends With Benefits (FWB) arrangement.
This kind of relationship lacks substance and
will eventually fizzle out. If you need to be in
a real relationship, quit this one and move
on.
