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**Advice Needed**

**Advice Needed**

By Tenniebenson in 19 Apr 2016 | 19:38
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[b]This is actually a true life story.. No fiction added.. The name of the lady will be changed though..for security reasons[/b]
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[i]Good evening coolvallers.. My name is Toriola.. I am a 22 years old lady.. I met my first boyfriend when I was in SS2 and I was 15+ then.. He was 3 years older.. We met online (on a local chat)..became friends.. I loved everything about him.. His voice especially.. He is talented.. He speaks about 7 different laguages..including french and spanish.. He sings for me and writes me poems..he is just so cool. He is also a very good christian.. Although I love extra cute guyz.. But I love him the way he is.. Not so cute..but good enough.. Tall and dark..

We met after about 2 years of blind date..I visited him on a christmas day..we were both shy to even hold each other.. To cut it short.. He was really caring and gentle.. During those two years.. We've fought and stopped calling..but we always make up.. The major cause of our fight was always his busy schedule.. He was always busy.

I loved him so much..and endured.. I dated other guyz even while dating him..but he was still my choice.. Yeah its a no sex dating..we wanted it that way.. Moreso..we re far away from each other..even though we both stayed in Lagos.

Another thing is..he doesn't open up to me easily..he loves been quiet.. I don't like it and I do complain..but that's just the way he is. I always want him to ask me questions..but he doesn't..I do force him to... I am always the one breaking up with him..and he always reconcile with me..

I finally broke up with him early last year because he forgot my birthday and didn't even call me months earlier..he promised to take me out..but he didn't.. Just because he was always busy.. He kept disturbing me..until I told him to stop that I was serious..

He unfriended me on facebook.. Maybe to forget me.. I don't know... Let me add that..we've never used each other as dp..yet he uses a particular girl..especially when we are fighting.. I am the silent jealous type..

Now I am in another relationship.. I care about my new man.. I don't want to hurt him.. He loves me..at least he says so.. But lately I kept thinking of my first love.. I can't seem to get him off my mind.. I still remember his numbers and facebook name.. I am confused.. I have dated lots of guyz while with him and after him.. Yet he still occupies my mind.. I am tempted to call him.. Please what should I do??[/i]
19 Apr 2016 | 19:38
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@Victoriouschild abeg dash me register
19 Apr 2016 | 19:40
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I guess u ar still thinking abt him bcos he ws ur first b4. I hv some questions, which are: can u cope wt doz things u dnt lik abt him? Can u cope if he doesn't change nd start being d kind of guy u wnt? Ar u very sure he love u as much as u luv him? If u ar sure of ur answers nd dey ar positive den u go ahead. Bt if u ar nt sure of ur answers, move on. U wl learn to 4gt him soon. Bt I dnt think a guy can b so busy without calling who he claim to luv even once a day. My opinion sha
19 Apr 2016 | 19:58
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go 4 ur man baby. If u lose im, u lose ur life. Put pride aside. Visit im if u knw his place. Beg im. Just dnt giv up cus u wud find no other.
19 Apr 2016 | 20:33
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well dat z wot it meant to b as for me go wit @delight advice.... i can use myself as a example am a busy guy dat frm monday to saturday i hardly ve tym of myself even on sunday in most cases bt it doesnt take me away to call my bae bf i sleep. in 24hrs of a day he is still busy....sunday to sunday... even if he is working he stil ve 1hr break....he uses anoda girl as a d.p whn u guys ve problems...my dear love ur new man nd forget ur first i dnt tink he is real.....i still call my first til date despite she z d one dat cut d r/ship off.
20 Apr 2016 | 01:23
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Delight has already typed what I would have type
20 Apr 2016 | 01:40
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20 Apr 2016 | 01:45
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u've gat to forget abt him
20 Apr 2016 | 02:24
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I don't and may never understand this idea of falling in love online...
20 Apr 2016 | 03:58
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i think that u still love him
20 Apr 2016 | 04:09
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Av nt been in a relationship xo i dunno
20 Apr 2016 | 04:16
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find out if he truly love you, if yes go meet him but try to understand him but if no go ahead u will soon come over it @tenniebenson I speak wella?
20 Apr 2016 | 04:17
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Purge him from ur memory n move on with ur life. Or do u need a slap to format ur brain for clearly thinking.
20 Apr 2016 | 04:21
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Lolzzzzz... @Tonia ur comment made me laff sha
20 Apr 2016 | 05:09
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@Aminzy lol... U try... But how will she find out? She said he deleted her na...since last year
20 Apr 2016 | 05:10
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My advice 2 u, u shd try 2 work tins out wit him.. becus why u and I kno dat he truly luvs u
20 Apr 2016 | 05:15
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Only dat he's 2 besy 2 prove it 2 u
20 Apr 2016 | 05:21
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Just move on with ur life.. BT if u think u can tolerate his behaviour and tight schedule den u sud try and work it out but if not my sister move on ..
20 Apr 2016 | 05:47
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Delight have said all
20 Apr 2016 | 06:30
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Folow ur mind its simple
20 Apr 2016 | 07:05
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Abeg forget that guy..he z not for u
20 Apr 2016 | 08:14
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please, dnt call him. If he truly luvs u, no matter aw busy he is, dere is always a space 4 d ones we luv
20 Apr 2016 | 08:31
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if my boo try dat 1 wit me, he go hear ween.
20 Apr 2016 | 08:32
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get over d past my dear i knw its hard but u ave to try
20 Apr 2016 | 10:51
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@Tenniebenson, some peeps needs dat. I can't luv someone who doesn't luv me.
20 Apr 2016 | 11:31
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One thing people don't know is that our future and ends has already been structured, I will advice you to continue with your new man and tried your possible best to forget about him... if God wants you both to be together definitely destiny will surely unite u guys back, u might call him and end up receiving a bad response. if he even talks to u well, u will then break up with your new date. you aren't a baby anymore so when will you settle down, is it when your shawama has exceeded it's elastic limit??
20 Apr 2016 | 12:20
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Wat they've told u is enough go back to him and u reconcile
20 Apr 2016 | 13:42
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Love shaaa
20 Apr 2016 | 13:47
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it happens like dat just focus on ur new bf do everything to love him den with time u even forget someone like him still exist
20 Apr 2016 | 14:01
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*Clears throat* mehn! lot of advice here... but will still drop mine. There is this saying that says... "No one is really busy. it just depends on what number you are on there priority list" Dear... to me o...according to what you typed about him... am not really sure is really serious with you. Ad i think that's what matters in a relationship. the seriousness,commitment. If i should treat a girl in such way, then that means she's not my first or second choice atall... she's just an alternative be that... That's all i can say.
20 Apr 2016 | 14:17
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don't call him again
20 Apr 2016 | 14:50
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CALL HIM AND RECONCILE WITH HIM OR U GOTTA REGRET IT LATA.U KNW IT CUD EXTRA-MARITAL AFFAIR IF U LATER GET MARRIED AND U CNT KIP IM OUTTA UR HEAD.IF HE ISNT ACOMODATIN DEN MOVE ON WIT UR LYF
20 Apr 2016 | 15:28
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Hmmm....Kus His Ur First,he Will Always Be On Ur Mind..Bt Try To Erase Every Thought About Him
20 Apr 2016 | 16:25
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u just have to try nd forget about him I know why u keep thinking of him it is because firstly he is ur first love nd again u guys dated for so long so it is difficult to forget about that but u just have to try nd forget about him so dat u can have a happy relationship Shalom
21 Apr 2016 | 06:12
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you have to let go
22 Apr 2016 | 15:46
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chill him out jor
2 Jun 2016 | 05:02
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