oh my husband episode 17&18

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OH THIS MY HUSBAND

Part 17
THE DUMB AND THE BLIND

The ground didn't open and I had to smile as my reply to the beggar's greetings.
Baba Jay is the dumb beggar at the popular roundabout in our area. Everyone knows him. I never knew he was married.
He has a funny animal-like sound of calling your attention. I could tell he was calling me because he kept waving at me.
His wife is a very pretty petite lady. The way he held her into the house was adorable. It made me hungry for loving cuddles.
Pastor called our attention as the lecture commences.
He started, “I told you all that I got some verses from that man in the mountain where I went to pray before landing in the hospital. And I made up my mind that I want my marriage to work.
I want to congratulate you all for coming. Your coming here shows that you want your marriage to work like I did.
I smiled, if only Pastor knew I am only here to while away the time from that house......
Pastor continued his story, looking lovingly at his wife,
I decided to spend some days studying the bible, seeking for answers on how to save my marriage.

After one hour of fruitless search, I stood up and went to my window... lo and behold, I looked down and I saw this lovely couple. Baba Jay was holding his wife to himself. She was feeding him. Their twenty-two year old daughter was making jest of them.
I could see their happiness and I was drawn to their love. I hurriedly changed my cloth and went down to speak with them.
I discovered that he was dumb and she was blind. I had to speak to him through his daughter. He uses sign language and she interpret in English.
I learnt that for their twenty-four years of marriage, he had never raised his voice to his wife and she had never complained.
The daughter told me that she had never seen her parents quarrel. Not even once.
Because he can't speak and she can't see. They are not able to convey any anger. And they must have patience to deal with one another.
Pastor continued speaking....

I spent almost three hours receiving lectures on how to be blind and dumb in marriage. The lecture that day started the sweetness of our marriage.
He stopped looking at his wife, redirected his gaze to us and told us to bring out our note pads as he teaches us how to live without complaining nor saying negative words".
My respect for this man "Baba Jay" changed. A dumb man without master’s degree, no big education, yet he lived with a woman now for over two decades and no quarrel.
Baba Jay started teaching us with sign language while Pastor was interpreting the signs in English.
Pastor Emma had learnt sign language in order to communicate with Baba Jay.
Come and see us oooo, as we were writing with so much passion as if the professor of electrodynamics was lecturing.
All our attention was drawn to the dumb man full of marital wisdom....
Point one was totally confusing. He said,
MARRIAGE WILL NEVER WORK IF THE TWO PARTNERS ARE NORMAL....
Ahhhh
If this man thinks he can release the demon of deaf and dumb into my life, he must be joking.

I looked at Pastor and his wife staring at themselves again... are they not tired of looking at themselves? These guys are truly abnormal.
Isn't it stupid to be smiling at your husband every time like teenagers on heat...?
Very abnormal.
They are truly not normal.
But how come normal people are here writing like eager students and learning from the abnormal ones.
Very truly, their abnormalities are turning our normality into normal malnormal
What am I saying...? am I normal?

OH THIS MY HUSBAND

Part 18
ABNORMALLY NORMAL

Baba Jay was busy speaking through his hands and Pastor too was interpreting and was still casting glances at his wife.
I was not concentrating... I kept looking at the way Pastor and his wife were behaving like teenagers on heat.
I suddenly noticed that Baba Jay’s wife had placed her hands on the back on her husband, Baba Jay and she seems so content. You can cut the love in the air with a knife, the love was so thick.
I can't remember the last time I experience such a love in my life.
I didn't know when I burst into tears again. Oh, I have made a marital blunder.
Pastor asked me, why are you crying?...
I blurted out: I am tired of being normal. I am tired of being the normal wife....
I want to be my husband's baby again. I don't want to go through life not knowing the true meaning of love in marriage.
I kept on wailing.... Pastor's wife wanted to come and console me but I was not the only one who suddenly realized that our normality had robbed us of the joy in marriage.
So I was not the only one crying. Two other sisters were crying too...

Baba Jay signaled with his hands and Pastor interpreted, "it is normal to see many unhappy couples. I sit at the roundabout and I see them drive past with sorrow in their eyes".
I see women who are only in the man's house because of children.
I see men who look as if they are in prison.
It is normal to hear of couple's fight, quarrel, divorce because majority of this world are filled with normal people.
Anytime I tell people that in my over twenty years of marriage, I have never had a quarrel with my wife, it sounds like a lie or impossibility.
The reason people are surprised and don't believe me, is because our case is not normal. We are an abnormal couple.
From the day your Pastor met with me, and agree to become abnormal, was the day his broken home started getting healed.
It takes one abnormal person to covert a normal marriage to an abnormal one.
Baba Jay paused...
In the process of Baba Jay speaking, we had stopped crying and started writing.....
Pastor picked up from there and said,
My brethren, Baba Jay is dumb, he can't speak, so he has never spoken any negative word to his wife for over twenty years....
His pretty wife is blind, she has not seen anything bad about her husband in over twenty years.
Can I be bold to tell you today, that the first lesson you will learn today is the first point Baba Jay gave us.
TO HAVE A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE... BE WILLING TO BE ABNORMALLY NORMAL.
Be willing to do things normal husbands won't do, be willing to do things normal wives won't do.
Be willing to go the extra mile because of your marriage. Be willing to do things that other normal people with normal marriage problems will see as abnormal.
Abnormal love is allowed.
Abnormal sacrifice is allowed.
Abnormal care is allowed.
Abnormal romance is allowed.
By all means please note, it is perfectly normal to be abnormal in marriage. Search google for coolval stories
Hmmmm. I had been concentrating seriously I had not noticed that one of the men in our group actually came with his wife and they were both crying and hugging themselves.
The wife was saying that she had never allowed her husband to hug her in public because she felt it was odd but now, she knows better... she was apologizing to her husband for being normal...
Hmmmm. I just hope I can be abnormal oooo.
Just then I heard a voice speak, the sound was like music to my ears.....
Oh, this voice can really turn me to abnormal too....

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