The parasite episode 7&8

TITLE: THE PARASITE

Episode 7: A Little Hot


# Continuation

I lived with my parents for months, it got more worse when I could no longer give my family stipends when they ask which was unlike me, they kept throwing indirect words at me on what I spend my money on, I bore the shades and regular verbal missiles because I didn't want anyone to know I had mortgage my salary to pay my husbands misconduct. Life has become so tiring and uninteresting to me, things has really fallen apart. I noticed my breast was getting heavier though I was seeing my monthly flow so I couldn't have suspected I was pregnant. I fell ill and was began self medications because I didn't want to spend a dine, at this point of my life, every single penny I had has a budget.

That fateful evening after a hectic day at work, I moved to join the company's staff bus, few minutes to the bus terminal I had an eye spinning, I slump immediately and was rushed to the hospital. I was confirmed 3months pregnant, should this be a joyful revelation or a sad genesis, I told my parents about it and they insisted I terminate the baby. This is one of the toughest decision in my entire life time, it was a clear show of the devil and the deep blue sea, do I give birth to the babe and remain a single mother? If I do then there is an established tie between that monster and I. What if I get rid of it and finally doesn't conceive again? Fear kept dancing salsa on my mind. After much battle I decided to see our counselor who scheduled a meeting for both of us without his knowledge.

On the said date he came while I hid somewhere, when he had settled in for about 10mins I entered the counselors office. Immediately he saw me, he started a war, this wicked woman, who stole from me, sold my car, sold my jewelry box, I have told you I don't want to set my eyes on you again (he started a scene). I don't even want to set my eyes on you because you disgust in, I only want a secured place where you cannot exercise your animalistic behaviour, before I proceed with my 8 million naira battle with you, I just want to let you know that I am 3months pregnant for you (I said to him). He stayed calm and didn't say a word for about 30seconds, oooohhhh really that is the trick, you are looking for a way to come back to my house, no way you are on sabbatical leave that is when I choose to let you back into my life (he bragged). Some times I really wonder what age you stopped feeding with breast, I forgot you haven't stopped because you even cry and fight to suck my breast, you are such a spoilt brat! You mitochondrial of irresponsibility, be a man a be responsible (I tongue lashed him). Will you both stop this rubbish and respect me (Our Counsellor cautioned us).

After and extensive discussion with us, she counseled in her knowledge and advised we separate for at least 6months, and urged my husband to ensure he pays every dime, in her words "Max that's so irresponsible of you, if you fail to pay by the end of the 6months separation period then be ready for the consequences". The big moment when our counselor asked if he would want me to keep the baby, his response was heartbroken. I would have loved her to keep the baby but I can't afford to train another man's child because I have a doubt in the paternity of the baby, how will your ex be so free to employ your husband as his project manager, meaning she must have slept with him to buy the favour (he said). You are so foolish, get out from my office! (Our counsellor walked him out and kept consoling me).

When I got home I kept crying while my counseling was speaking to me on the phone, Paulette my kid sister over head the conversation, she entered the room and told me that since I have refused to do the needful she will help me do it. She left and returned home at about 11:09pm I know how crazy Paulette could be but I didn't know what she has done, I couldn't close my eyes because I know she must have done something mischievous. She left the house at 6:30am again the following morning and later that day I received an alert of 4.8million naira from my husband. It was then I knew Paulette had gone the hard way, she narrated how she had called her friend who was a Major I'm the army to storm my husband's house, they took him to the barrack and drilled him, he was meant to pay 4.8million naira to me with the narration "gift to my treasure" and signed an undertaking to pay the balance in 4weeks because their was validation he had a personal contract he was running. Its good to be cool, but when you are too cool you might end up in the cooler, one has to be a LITTLE HOT to win some battles.

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TITLE: THE PARASITE

Episode 8: Victory Over Abuse


#Final_Episode

Getting part payment of the 8million naira debt from my husband gave me a little peace and cushioned the effect of stress on me. The bigger battle began on my pregnancy, though I had agree to keep it without my husbands consent, but sometimes I find it irritating keeping a semi-bastard, how do I keep a child who's father has refused paternity and responsibility? It is easier for people to say where there is life there is hope, but the reality of it is being a lone parent with a story of falsehood on me not knowing the father of my child, thoughts of people's judgment kept weighing me down.

After 6weeks, my husband paid the balance and I was able to offset my pending loans, gradually life was becoming stable for me, all thanks to Paulette for standing firm for me. At the end of the 6months break period as advised by our counselor, we where reinvited by her, then I was about 8months pregnant. He was so calm during the meeting, our counselor exhausted so much words trying to lift up our interest again, to my surprise Max knelt down crying and begging to have me back into his life, he vowed never to hit me again or act violent towards me. We hugged and kissed passionately shedding tears well accompanied by mutual apologies.

After our reconciliation, I appealed to him to allow me stay with my parents till after delivery while I do my home work in convincing my parents to grant my return back to our matrimonial home (we both agreed and parted ways). During the last days of my pregnancy he stood firmly, sending gifts and always checking up. Few times he summons courage to visit with gifts and other items, though my parents didn't give him the welcoming hands as usual.

About 5weeks later I delivered a bouncing baby boy, I was happy that his father has come to wipe my shame of having a semi bastard, his family came over to resolve the differences and I moved back to my matrimonial home after 4months of child birth. That fateful evening my ex who gave my husband his last job called and wanted to know my husband's whereabout and how I went with resolving the issue. I wasn't interested in the conversation to avoid bringing old memories. To my greatest surprise my husband dragged the phone from me and started questioning me on why I still have to keep communication with my ex, it was surprising as I didn't have an answer because he knew I had nothing with Jade (my ex). I have never cheated on him but he has done that countless times on me.

Why are you so insecured Max? (I asked), I got a hilarious answer which was a confusing slap on my face, I saw stars, yea I saw real stars! He dragged my baby off my hands and placed him on the chair, I tried dragging myself away from his hands, he increased his punch on my face and my stomach. I kept vomiting blood and my face was broken, I begged him with my last breath, yet he dragged me on floor into the bath room, where he dipped my head into our bathtub filled with water, I was slowly loosing breath, I thought of my innocent baby, my aged parents and couple of persons dependent on me, I struggled till I hit his testicles with my last strength, he fell and I smacked him again with a bucket and took to my heels.

This is Gloria's 10th year as a single mother, living with chronic eye pains because of her last abuse... A parasite will never evacuate its host because the life of a parasite (abusive partner) is dependent on the host (you), they will never stop draining, exploiting, over using, oppressing and nourishing themselves till they finally eliminate you.

#AUTHORS_CORNER

- Don't be deceived that an abusive partner will get better someday. You might not live to tell your better day story.

- Abuse goes beyond mere hitting and physical abuse, hurtful words are unsuitable to keep a healthy relationship.

- Never wait for a second strike, warning signals are running signals, he/she who was bitten today and runs for his/her life will surely live to date or marry again.

- Parasite are internal (lovers/families) or external (friends/neighbours/colleagues), don't be deceived by how close they are to you, once you find them toxic please avoid or move on.