Complete your healing process before you
think about whether or not to befriend your
ex, it's important that you take the time to
heal from your failed relationship.
Partners who break up and then attempt a
friendship before they've healed often
create complicated and emotionally unstable
situations. If you or your ex finds a new
partner -- and either one of you still has
feelings for the other and has not fully
accepted that your romantic relationship is
over -- then anger, jealousy and resentment
could emerge in your friendship. Some even
go to the extent of having sex with their ex
even when in a new relationship. There is
also the possibility of you constantly
comparing your new relationship with that
of your ex. Having your ex still hovering
over you can even create fear and panic in
your new partner. If you don't have a
partner and you can stay without hearing
from you ex then perhaps the break up was
a joke.
Be honest and clear with your ex. If you
decide that you don't want to be friends,
let him know with clear, honest and direct
communication. If your answer is no, then
simply say "no" -- there is no need to
explain or justify your answer. At this point
you should stop further communications
with him via phone, email and text as well.
If you decide that a friendship is an
emotionally healthy and worthwhile option,
then set clear parameters for your
friendship -- such as no late night
sleepovers, visitations or anything the two
of you use to do in the past which will NOT
help you move on -- so that your ex knows
what to expect.
If you don’t break away from each other
and want to keep behaving like best friends
after the break, trust me either you are
fooling yourself or yourselves. Think about
the words BREAAAAAK UUUUP!!!!!!
