[b]I welcome all to the new month of hope, strength, happiness, elevated and celebration. My prayers is that we shall indeed be celebrated and decorated in this month of freedom in Jesus name.
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In the new millennium, finding someone to date isn’t nearly
as tricky as mastering the art of dating. Between online
dating, singles events, and the old-fashioned in-person meet
and greet, it’s possible to date someone new on a regular
basis. But how do you make the most of these chances to
meet your perfect partner? How can you ensure that a first
date, good or bad, is a learning experience rather than a
missed opportunity? The following are the top five dating
don’ts, followed by helpful dating dos:
Don’t: Misrepresent yourself
While online dating is a valuable resource for the savvy
single, there are people out there who misrepresent
themselves. Don’t be one of them. Just as your online dating
profile should accurately represent who you really are, your
in-person encounters should be equally authentic. Don’t
pretend to be something or someone you’re not in an effort
to impress a potential partner. You’re fabulous just as you
are and if somebody else can’t see that, it’s his loss.
Besides, a relationship founded on lies and/or insincerities
Do: Be clear AND realistic about what you want
The most successful daters are those who not only know
exactly what they want, but are realistic about themselves
and what they’re looking for. Make a list of the qualities and
traits you’re looking for in your perfect partner. Then look at
that list and ask yourself how realistic it is. For example, is
finding someone who makes great money more important
than finding someone who lives within his means? Or if you
think you want to meet someone who’s highly educated with
multiple degrees, is that as important as finding someone
with one degree but amazing life experiences that have
helped shape and educate him? Make your list, and as you
continue dating, tweak it to make it as clear and realistic as
possible.
Don’t: Get stuck in a rut
Getting stuck in a dating rut or dry spell doesn’t have to be
part of the single gal’s experience. Taking time away from the
dating scene to breathe and reboot is one thing (and oh-so-
necessary now and then). But getting stuck in a dating rut
where you’re either not meeting anyone or only meeting the
same type of guy over and over again should be a thing of
the past.
Do: Put yourself in target rich environments (often!)
The best way to avoid a dating rut is to get “out there” on a
regular basis. And by “out there,” I mean target-rich
environments, at least once a week. What’s a target-rich
environment? It’s any location where savvy and successful
single men can be found in abundance. For the best results,
choose a target-rich environment based on your own
interests. Don’t think sports bar (unless you’re a diehard
sports fan yourself), but instead think bookstore or singles
event or museum fundraiser or political rally. Once you’re in
your target-rich environment, don’t forget to smile and
circulate!
Don’t: Look at being single as a bad thing
Be honest — does being single sometimes feel like a life
sentence you’re forced to endure? If so, don’t be surprised if
you’re attracting like-minded individuals or not attracting
anyone at all. This kind of negative thinking is both
dangerous and defeating to your dating efforts. After all,
would you want to date someone who hated being single?
Do: Become a successful single
The key to enjoying your social life as a savvy single is to
relish in the possibilities. You have yet to meet the person
you’re going to spend the rest of your life with, and that’s
fantastic! By being footloose and fancy free, you have the
opportunity to meet and date and try on different partners
until you find the right fit. While not every person you date is
going to be right for you, by playing the field you
exponentially increase your chances of meeting that perfect
person. By becoming a successful single and enjoying the
quality of your life in general, you’re bound to attract like-
minded healthy and happy partners — maybe even Mr. Right.
Don’t: Drag excess baggage on dates
Just as you shouldn’t have to date a guy who lugs his
emotional baggage wherever he goes, you shouldn’t be That
Girl either. Nobody in your present dating life wants or
deserves to bear the brunt of your past relationships. Your
relationship history — the good, bad, and even the ugly — is
just that. History.
Do: Learn your relationship lessons
Instead of obsessing about past relationship failures, look at
those experiences as valuable lessons. You can learn from
any dating disaster, relationship gone awry, even a bad
breakup . These experiences ultimately teach us about our
own resilience, what we’re really looking for in a perfect
partner and how we can do better next time by applying our
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[b]5 steps to do in order to keep a healthy relationship
GRATITUDE: This is one of the most vital traits in a relationship the obvious reason is because it feels good to feel appreciated and acknowledged by some one you love . and the less obvious reason is that in high gratitude relationships,both of you will be more willing and open in doing the work needed to keep the relationship strong and healthy.
A BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT:"he's later to dinner AGAIN!instead of assuming that this is obviously because he doesn't care about your time or your feeling,take a deep breath and try to think about other possible explanation . one major way to avoid conflict is to start by not assuming the worst. the key is realizing that different people see the world in different ways and your view of the world is not necessarily the right one. this realization leads to a list of good things-trying to take your partners perspective and understand where they are coming from,giving your partner the benefit of the doubt.
BE EXCITED ABOUT YOUR PARTNERS accomplishments yes it is import to be there for your partner when they are going through something hard . but its also important maybe even more important to celebrate with them when things are going great.
HONESTY :It sounds so oblivious,we should be honest and forthright with people we claim to love honesty can make a stronger relationship because it involves truthful self disclosure and can lead to deeper level of intimacy.
LOYALTY AND COMMITMENT :For a relationship to be healthy you and your partner need to demonstrate loyalty and supportiveness
. commitment is also important and serves as a mechanism for maintaining your relationship[/b]
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Motto : [b][color =green]Living out your dreams[/color]
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[b]Happy independence[/b]
