Breaking up is never easy.
Never! Probably the only thing worse than being dumped is being the person about to do the dumping. So, how do you break the news without looking or feeling like a jerk? What is a nice way to breakup with someone?
You may feel pressure from your friends and family to just break up and move on, but we know it is never that
simple. Here are some things to keep in mind when thinking about breaking up:
The person you are dating has probably become a huge part
of your life. You might see more of them now than you do your friends or family. So
being scared about feeling lonely after the break up is normal. Talking to friends or
finding new activities may make filling your new free time easier.
You will probably miss your partner after you break up, maybe a lot. Even if they have been abusive and controlling, it is normal to miss them. Try writing down the reasons you want to end your relationship and keep them as a reminder for later on.
If your partner is controlling and jealous, they may make a lot of decisions for you. It can
take time to adjust to making your own decisions again. If
you start to feel helpless or verwhelmed, spend time with your family and friends.
They love you!
Ending an unhealthy or
abusive relationship is not like ending a healthy one. Your
abusive partner may not accept the break up or respect your boundaries. They may try to control you through guilt trips, threats or insults. It
may be very difficult to have a peaceful or mutual breakup with an abusive partner. Just
know that as long as YOU are ok with the decision, it is okay if your partner is not. If
you are thinking of ending your relationship, consider
these tips:
If you do not feel safe, do not break up in person. It may seem cruel to break up over
the phone or by text, but it may be the safest way.
If you break up in person, do it in a public place.
Do not try to explain your reasons for ending the relationship more than once. There is nothing you can say that will make your ex-partner happy.
Let your friends and parents know you are ending your relationship, especially if you think your ex-partner will come to your house or confront you when you are alone.
If your ex-partner does come to your house when you are alone, do not open the door.
Trust yourself.
If you feel afraid, you probably have a good reason.
