Life is in stages; there are
moments when a child is
expected to be studious and
get the best out of life.
There are also moments when
one is expected to take on
certain responsibility in the
family and assume leadership
positions.
A child is expected to learn how
to crawl and walk in due time;
the same child is expected to
display certain behaviors at a
particular time in his life. These
things are age appropriate and
the child would definitely
outgrow these things in due
season.
Ladies who the society
considers to be of age when it
comes to marriage are often
pressurized into getting
married. Most of the ladies
already know this and have
series of excuses to give when
the topic is brought up.
In this part of the world,
women are expected to get
married irrespective of their
educational background and
career. As a matter of fact, a
woman’s husband is said to be
her crown; a successful woman
who is not married is looked at
funnily.
Ladies who are single and not in
any serious relationships are
usually defensive; they are
quick to bring up ridiculous
excuses to justify their
relationship status. Here are
some of the excuses ladies
come up with when asked why
they are not in any relationship:
1. I am taking my time
At thirty, a woman who says she
is taking her time is fooling no
one. We understand the fact
that there are lots of unserious
guys out there who may want to
take advantage of them or play
with their emotions.
But saying this makes many
people think the ladies are
responsible for their status and
that they are unwilling to go
into a relationship whereas they
pray and cry behind closed
doors to be in a relationship.
2. All they want to do is have
sex
So many ladies say they do not
want to be in a relationship
because the guys only want sex.
A woman who thinks sex is the
only thing a man wants from her
is shallow minded; this is
because she feels the only thing
she has to offer is sex.
It is also hilarious hearing this
from women who have slept
with virtually every man; who
are they fooling? Some of these
ladies masturbate behind closed
doors and expect men to keep
their hands off them when they
have a long sexual history
themselves.
3. I am waiting for the
perfect man
Some ladies say this when they
are accounting for the reason
why they are still single. That
wait is going to be a long one;
there is no perfect man in the
world. The ladies looking for
perfection in men are also
flawed.
Every woman is expected to
work on her man and not wait
for some finished product.
Perfection is an unattainable
feat to mortals, it would be
good for the ladies to know this
as soon as possible.
4. Guys are a huge distraction
Another excuse ladies come up
with when they are trying to
justify the reason why they are
single is this. While many ladies
say men are a big distraction to
them, the girls younger than
them are married and moving
forward in life. Although God’s
time is the best, it would be
good for the ladies to give
other reasons that would be
better than this.
5. I just don’t want to be in
one
Many times, ladies say they do
not want to be in a relationship
and would prefer to remain
single. The truth of the matter
is that there has to be
something wrong with that lady.
She might have had a very bad
experience with men at an early
stage or might have been victim
of sexual violence at one point
in her life or the other.
Either way, it does not sound
natural for a lady who has
clocked thirty-three to give an
excuse like this. It would be
nice for ladies like these to go
for deliverance.
6. They are players
It is annoying hearing ladies
give this excuse. Not every man
out there is a player. The fact
that they must have had one or
two bad times with men does
not mean every guy they meet
after then would be just like
that.
This is fallacy of generalization!
For a lady to have concluded
that men are players, she must
have presented herself to them
as an object that could be
tossed and played on.
7. Relationship is not meant
for everyone
Some ladies come up with this
excuse when asked why they
are still single. If you take your
time to sit down with ladies
that say this, you will
understand that they have
probably had enough
experiences or have lived close
to people who have seen hell in
relationships. This could be the
basis of their mentality.
Either way, marriage is
considered to be a black market
and you never can guess what
you are getting into until you
are in. But the ladies would still
have to try getting into a
relationship before they shut
their hearts forever.
