hello guys, SHE NEEDS YOUR ADVICE

“I got pregnant nine years ago while dating my
current husband and then the issue of marriage
came up. I wasn’t working then. He told my family
and I that he doesn’t want a court marriage for no
reason.
My parents tried talking to him, I cried and begged
him severally to legalize his marriage with me but
he stood his grounds not to wed
me in a court. I involved his family members to
help me beg him but they said, he’s old enough to
make his decisions.
He even refused to do a white wedding either
because my church requested for a court certificate,
so we ended up doing only
traditional marriage. I later got tired and gave up on
the matter. I was hurt and broken but I resolved to
marry him like that just to save myself and my
family the shame of having a baby outside
wedlock.
My dad was angry and disappointed in him but he
didn’t care and because of that my dad vowed to
see me a successful and independent woman with
or without him. After I gave birth to my baby, my
dad helped me secure a job with a multinational
company and things started to turn around for me. I
could now take care of myself and secure a future.
Though I married my husband but I never forgave
him from my heart and it made me not to do
anything in my husband’s name. We currently have
three kids together but all my properties are in the
name of my children. I never used him as my next
of kin either. Just last month my company decided
to transfer me to a branch in Texas and the
company is willing to pay for my entire family to
relocate with me.
My husband’s business is not doing too well and
he’s willing to relocate also but we have no legal
certificate to show that we are
married. Now he wants us to go to the court to
legalize our marriage and I have said “No” My dad
has threatened to disown me if I ever go with him
to court.
He’s been tagging me everywhere as a bad wife
who is not loyal to her husband, spoiling my family
also. His family members have been calling me
trying to persuade me but I told them I’m old
enough to make my decisions also and I have
stood my ground just like he did to me nine years
ago.”
What is your advice for this young mother of three