“Jealousy is a disease, love is a
healthy condition. The
immature mind often mistakes
one for the other, or assumes
that the greater the love, the
greater the jealousy - in fact,
they are almost incompatible;
one emotion hardly leaves
room for the other.”
― Robert A. Heinlein, Stranger in
a Strange Land
Everyone who feels that it is fine
to be jealous in a relationship
should definitely be reading this.
Being possessive of your
significant other is not too bad
we say, but constant pangs of
jealousy are indeed not healthy
for any relationship.
The first step towards beating
jealousy pangs is to
acknowledge that "Yes, I am
jealous!" It is important for you
to understand that jealousy is a
powerful emotion. This feeling is
capable of draining you and your
partner. Do not let your Mr. Right
or Ms. Perfect get away from you
just because of your ‘jealousy’.
The clouds of such pangs must
be dispelled, and here is how you
can do that.
{1} Pump up your confidence
Most jealousy pangs happen
when you feel insecure about
yourself in some way or another.
You don’t have to duck down
and drown your individuality
because you feel there is
someone better around your
partner who makes a potentially
great match with them. Your
partner is in a relationship with
you because there must be an
indefinable quality that makes
you stand out in the pool of
people he or she is surrounded
with. So, stop trying to punish
yourself, and give your self-
esteem a much needed boost.
{2}Don't nag
If you keep questioning your
partner about their whereabouts
they will naturally feel insulted.
Have faith in your partner unless
you have evidence to prove
otherwise. Constant nagging will
only cause a build-up of
frustration in your partner’s
mind. At the end, they might not
even feel accountable to you. It is
a big reason that would end up
creating a rift between the two
of you.
Give space to your partner
Space is an important aspect of
any relationship. The more you
cling on to jealousy, the more
destructive it will become for
both of you. If your partner
wants to spend the weekend
with his friends, let them. Why
would you want to leash them to
yourself? Won’t you like to go out
with your friends and catch up?
Every partner needs their
breathing space for the
relationship to flourish.
{3} Be yourself
Don’t mull over, and stop
questioning why they love you.
Be who you are and take time
out for yourself. Indulge in your
favourite sport, pursue a hobby,
or go out with your friends every
once in a while. Remember, you
must not weave your life around
that one person and do not let
them overpower your sense of
being. Stop asking yourself, what
would you do without them
because before they entered
your life you were living a certain
way. Once you come at peace
with yourself, you will find peace
in your relationship too.
Don't let the past take over
Is it because you have been
cheated on before that you find
your trust shaken every time you
see someone else hovering
around your partner? Once the
trust is broken it is difficult to
trust someone else again. But, do
not judge your current
relationship with the past circling
through your mind. If you do feel
insecure because of your past
experience, then do talk to your
partner openly and freely. Don't
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{4} Talk about it!
Yes, nothing can help your
relationship than a heart to heart
talk. If you feel that your
sweetheart is behaving a little
different than the usual, then
instead of jumping to the trust
issues, try talking to them and
get some clarity. What can be
better than getting things out in
the open? Isn't this much better
than punishing yourself or
nagging your partner over and
over again?
Reconnect with you partner!
Spend some time rebuilding your
bond with your sweetheart. Once
a relationship gets into the
'comfort zone', we often start
taking things for granted. This is
the time when insecurity,
jealousy and distrust enter your
relationship. Make efforts to
reconnect with your partner,
spend some quality time with
them and get your relationship
out of that 'stagnant' phase.
