1} Learn to focus. Too often, when
asked about dating strategies,
singles are dumbfounded. Do
you really need to have one? Yes,
especially if your last one didn’t
end on a good note. You have
trust issues and Dating After
being Hurtinsecurities. People
who are successful in their
endeavors are those who
approach their lives with focus.
You need to set goals for yourself
and establish what you truly
want to achieve. You already
know what didn’t work out for
you, so quit making the same
mistake again. In your mind,
define who you would like to
meet and how you can increase
your chances of meeting that
person. Work on being the kind
of person who’ll attract the kind
that you want and review your
options that will give you the
best possibility of finding that
person.
2} Forgive yourself and your past.
Throw away your “should’ve,
would’ve, could’ve” soundtrack.
Repeating the same mistakes
yield the same results. You have
to find another way around it if
you truly want to change your
circumstances. You cannot
change who you’ve been in the
past and what happened to you,
but you have the
capacity to change who you are
now and who you will become.
So instead of spending time
overanalyzing your past that
can’t be rewound, look forward
to the future and all the exciting
possibilities that you can possibly
have.
3} Let go and move on. Never allow
your past to have the power over
your future. Stop comparing your
current date with your ex. You
cannot make your current
relationship work by hoping to
emulate the one that didn’t. It’s
like hitting your head with the
same hammer over and over
again, thinking that you’ll get
numb eventually. Guess what, it
will still hurt every single time. So
throw away the hammer and
give yourself a rest.
Acknowledge accountability. In
your past failed relationships,
you might be quick to blame
your ex. But you have to examine
yourself too. What could you
have done differently? Was there
anything wrong on your part? Do
you need certain adjustments in
your attitude? You are not
perfect and neither is your life.
Accept responsibility and work
towards becoming the best
possible version of yourself. You
attract what you put out there,
so be your best
if you want to snag the same
from the rest.
Love and accept who you are.
In order to truly love another
person, you have to learn to love
yourself first. You cannot begin
to share and give love if you do
not have it on your own. Take
the opportunity of being single
as a chance to nurture yourself.
4} Do things that you are
passionate about and make you
happy. Do not collect holes and
wait for the right person to come
along and fix it for you. Fill your
own void and allow people to
experience the whole you.
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