People who urge you to be realistic generally want you to accept their version of reality.
~pricelezz~
With my multiple streams of income drying up one by one and no light of opportunity on the horizon, I was quickly losing faith in my ability to create a sustainable life as a writer. The long stretches of nothing to do were cementing my career-driven depression, and I was beginning to feel completely disconnected from my purpose.
I was incredibly insecure about my lack of forward movement, so I attempted to avoid conversations that brought up the topic of careers.
Then one day, a family gathering prompted a conversation about a local retail store that was considered to be a great place to work. One well-meaning but somewhat brash family member turned to me and said, “Why don’t you at least try to get a job there?”
I felt as if someone had just pummeled me in the stomach.
It wasn’t the idea of working in that particular place that bothered me, it was the insinuation that I wasn’t trying to create a career for myself and that my choice in careers wasn’t a respectable one.
Understanding Something Monumental
In reality, that one statement sparked a mountain of timber that had been gathering as a result of my own insecurities and doubts about what I had been attempting to do. It was someone else voicing what my own inner demons had been shouting at me for weeks.
And that was utterly painful.
That one exchange, preceded by a long list of under-handed comments about my lifestyle choices, prompted a long, drawn-out, Cold-War type of feud that led me to understand something monumental:
It is futile to seek support from people whose own life experiences have tainted their idea of what is and isn’t possible. Not everyone is capable of shedding a positive lighton what you are going through.
Here are six tips I now follow when it comes to handling harsh criticisms and seeking support from certain people in my life.
1. Be Strong and Confident in Who You Are
When I was younger, I was easily shaken by negative comments that were slung at me. I took other people’s opinions for fact, because I was not in tune with my own inner confidence.
As I learned to connect with myself and really appreciate who I was, I began to see what other people said or did was a reflection of themselves, not of me.
If we can’t change how people choose to approach us, we can certainly change how we react to them.
continuation:https://pricelezz247.blogspot.com.ng/2018/04/how-to-handle-your-haters.html
