[b] Some women feel a “Real Man” doesn’t
exist—that he is impossible to find.
Other women do not want someone like
him. On the other hand, some men think
they are the very definition of a “Real
Man.” Other men feel there is no such
thing. One thing is true, though: Those
men who think they are the very
definition of a “Real Man” and those
who think they are not are both very
often wrong.
If you want to know if you are a real
man or are in a relationship with a real
man, watch the actions. A real man
behaves so different from the selfish frat
boy types you see everywhere that you
can’t fail to notice the difference. He is a
gentleman—good for more than just the
first few months. Importantly, a real
man does things so well when he is in a
relationship that you just have to love
him and his style.
1. A real man loves and respects
his woman for who she is.
He might not love her all the time, but he
loves her. Not just her body, her
possessions and her status, but all of her !
He’s aware that as beautiful as her body
is now, physical beauty fades. He
therefore focuses his love and attention
on her true beauty, which is found
within her sensibilities and personality.
He treats her like a lady, with dignity
and respect. He doesn’t mind cooking
her favorite meal, taking her out to wine
and dine and paying the bills. He also
expects love and respect from her.
2. A real man commits to the
relationship fully.
He doesn’t cheat. He is loyal to his
partner and knows that relationships
take hard work to keep strong and
healthy. His affection to his woman is a
full-time commitment. He nourishes and
strengthens the relationship through
ongoing, honest communication and
team work. When you are with a real
man, you know you can trust him. He
will stay faithful no matter what and
expects you to do the same.
3. A real man protects his partner
physically and emotionally.
Not that a woman can’t protect and
defend herself, but he is there for her
anyway. He protects her in different
ways, including providing financial
security and comforting her and making
her feel everything will be okay. He is
ready to throw a good punch if
necessary to defend her from physical
aggressors. However, he thinks before he
acts. He never makes a move until he is
sure all details and specifics are in
order. His moves are calculated,
deliberate and assured. Abuse of any
kind is never an issue when you are with
him. He is considerate and treats
everyone kindly.
4. A real man fulfills his partner
mentally and sexually.
He knows the majority of time in any
relationship is spent doing nonphysical,
nonsexual things. Besides whispering to
her how beautiful she is or how he is
going to make hot, passionate love to her
when he gets back home in the evening,
he also engages her in meaningful
discussions about life, plans with her for
the future, and cracks jokes to lighten
and liven moments together. He displays
an awareness, intelligence and
sensitivity that makes his actions not
only timely, but also genuinely
charming.
5. A real man takes the first
initiative—he leads.
That’s because he wears the pants in the
relationship. Of course, the pants are
picked out by his woman, but he is still
the leader. He steps forward and
addresses issues in the relationship
boldly. He does not wait for the woman
to solve problems. If he is not sure how
to address an issue, he seeks help or
advice. Some men play it safe and avoid
taking the lead because they don’t want
to be criticized, but not a real man. A
real man says, “I’ll handle it,” and takes
the initiative to solve the issue in his
way.
6. A real man steps up and makes
the tough decisions.
He knows real men are decisive and he
makes decisions in the relationship. He
does not leave every other decision to his
partner. When making decisions, he
seeks to understand her views (and that
of other concerned parties) and is
flexible enough to factor in those other
views in his decisions. He does not seek
to control people, but rather to improve
their situation. If you are reluctant to
make decisions, you are likely self-
conscious and afraid of making
mistakes. Women dislike indecisive,
cowardly men.
7. A real man takes responsibility
for his actions and decisions.
He does not shift blame (especially to his
partner) or try to defend his mistakes.
He simply acknowledges when he has
made a mistake, apologizes for it, learns
from it and works to make it right.
Saying, “I am sorry,” is not a big deal to
him. He knows it doesn’t make him any
less of a man to say it. In fact, saying
he’s sorry makes him more of a man
because it demonstrates he has the
confidence, courage and integrity to
admit his faults and seek to correct
them.
8. A real man speaks his mind—
always.
He is not afraid or timid to say what’s on
his mind. He will say no without fear
whenever he doesn’t agree with
something. He will debate you on topics
he is not comfortable with without losing
his cool. He will be straightforward and
talk to you as an equal, then allow you to
make your own conclusions or take
whatever action you wish. This does not
mean he is indifferent or treats women
badly. He just doesn’t agree with her on
everything. He knows a “Yes-man” is no
man at all.
9. A real man stands up for the
relationship.
Sometimes friends, family and even total
strangers ask inappropriate questions or
make inappropriate remarks about your
relationship, such as saying you are not
a “good couple.” In such cases, a real
man stands up for himself and defends
the legitimacy and integrity of his
relationship. Even when he is among his
peers, he speaks up and stands his
ground in defense of his relationship.
This proves he can express himself in the
presence others, protect his woman and
act like a grown man.
10. A real man pursues other
passion(s) that don’t involve his
partner.
He has enough going on in his life to
keep him busy. That means he is, at
least, passionate about one other thing
besides his relationship. The relationship
does not define him. He will give you
your space and you must give him his.
He is a confident, ambitious go-getter.
He’s a real man!
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[color =Red]ARE YOU A REAL MAN???[/color][/b]
