How to “toast” a girl if you are shy.
If you are sitting in your favourite bar
and you spot a hot girl, don’t let
shyness keep you from the
possibilities. Use these tips.
1. Dress well: Do not underestimate
the importance of looking the part.
Being well and fashionably dress is
the first step towards standing out. It
puts you out there even before you
begin to use your words and it will
draw the eyes of most ladies,
whether or not they are interested.
2. Project confidence: This might be
hard to do if you are naturally shy,
but you have to ‘fake it till you make
it.’ Project confidence by maintaining
a strong, straight posture. Also, if
you happen to be in good shape,
then kudos to you. Women usually
notice a man who stands out with
looks and confidence.
3. Read her cue: Would you go on
and flirt with a girl when you are
absolutely sure she will say yes?
You probably would. There is
confidence in certainty. So, to
improve your chances, look for clues
that tell you she will be receptive.
When you catch her eyes more than
a couple of times, she smiles at you,
find reasons to stay around your
vicinity or unnecessarily walks past
you again and again, then she is very
likely into you. This will make you
feel more sure of yourself as you
approach her.
4. Resist the fear of rejection: Do not
let the fear that she will reject you
cripple you. Ask yourself, what is the
worst that could happen? If she does
not show interest, just move on.
What you are likely to gain is so
much more than what you might
lose. If you do get rejected, don’t get
moody about this. Even the best
players get shut down from time to
time.
5. Use opportunities wisely: If you
are lucky enough that she comes
over, perhaps to ask for the time, take
your chance and strike a
conversation. Do not be so timid that
she comes and goes, and you have
not made your move, because such
opportunity might not come again.
6. A little booze: Sure, it is a terrible
idea to talk to a girl you like when
you are drunk, but a little booze can
calm your nerves. Be sure to know
your limit though, because what can
be considered ‘little’ for someone
else might not be the same for you.
You are going for slightly tipsy, but
your words aren’t slurred and your
steps aren’t clumsy. When you figure
this out, it could make it easier for
you to approach the object of your
attraction.
