[b] Everyone seems to use text messages and emails to communicate to
each other these days. So there’s something about a good, old-
fashioned love letter—especially a handwritten one—that makes it a
rare and special treat. Love letters are keepsakes that can be held,
reread and cherished. They are the perfect gift for someone you love.
Writing a love letter is not hard but it takes some time and
contemplation to express your true feelings.
1. Preparing to Write Your Letter
Get over your fear. You’re in control of what you write or
don’t write. You don’t have to follow some love letter
template or write poetry or sappy phrases unless you want to. The
best thing you can do is be yourself in your letter.
Set the mood.
2. Go somewhere private and shut the door. Try
to remove as many distractions as possible, including noise,
disruptive electronics and interruptions. Create an ambiance that
inspires you with candlelight or music.
. Maybe there is a song that reminds you of the person you
love.
. Find that song and play it while you think.
You can also bring a picture of your love with you to look at.
3.Reflect on your feelings.
We all have moments where we
feel very deeply about the ones we love. Conjure up that
feeling—a moment when all your attention was focused on that
one person, and you were completely immersed and lost in your
love. Experience the physical and emotional feelings of that
moment as deeply as you can. Be sure to jot down a description
about your feelings and any words that come to mind to describe
the way you feel.
4.Think about the person you love.
You fell in love with him or
her for a reason. There was something about them that first
attracted you and something that helped you fall in love and kept
you there. They have special attributes, such as looks, personality,
character, temperament, humor or strengths that you want them
to know you appreciate. Tell him or her all the things you love
about them and how you value who they are and what they do for
you.
Think about what your significant other is to you? Your best
friend? Your soul mate? Make a list of everything you
appreciate and adore about your partner.
Now create sentences with your list. “I love how soft your
hands feel in mine,” or “I love the way you look at me and let
me know everything will be all right,” or perhaps, “Your smile
and easy laughter can make my whole day.”
Don’t just focus on physical characteristics. This can make
the letter feel shallow and incomplete. You don’t want to
completely avoid physical attraction in your letter either,
though, because then it can feel a little too platonic. Love
letters are meant to be tastefully sensual and respectful—not
necessarily erotic.
5.Use memories to guide you.
You have probably shared many
special moments with your lover. You have a history with
your significant other that only you two share. The memories of
those experiences enrich your relationship.
Think about the story of when you two first met or felt
sparks fly. There was a moment in time when you knew you
wanted to be with that person. Write down that story and
everything you remember about it—from the clothing they
were wearing to the place it happened and how nervous or
confident you felt about approaching them.
6.Think about the future.
Your relationship has a past but it
also has a future that you want to encourage in your love
letter. If you’re apart, describe all the things you want to do
together when you’re reunited. If you’re committed, discuss some
goals, dreams and fantasies you have about your future life
together. Write it all down.
7.Consider if it was your last day on earth.
Many love letters
have made their rounds from soldiers at the battlefront
throughout history. It can give you some perspective to think
about what you would say if there might not be a tomorrow. Make
every word count, and don't be shy.
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To be continued some other time.
