I JUST DISCOVERED HE IS MARRIED(relationship talk)

Wow thanks 4 being my first relationship talk fan here on coolval22 My best advice for you is to leave that relationship.... Why would a man keep such from you for a whole year.. How are you sure he won't do the same to you if you agree to marry him?... Are you perfect? You have your own faults too, will he be able to tolerate yours when you eventually marry him? If he can tolerate yours, why can't he tolerate the single one he has rather than adding more problem for himself....If his relationship isn't a happy one why shouldn't he work towards it.... Fine some women can be so frustrating..... But my love, you have a good life to live, your great future is awaiting you.... Polygamous home isn't advisable for anyone..... Pls dear leave the relationship right now..... Try your best to erase the love you have shared and am so sure your perfect man will come for you... **kisses** :)

I think u have to quit the relationship if he's already married

Okay . well, I don't think there is any need for you to stick around anymore. He is married it will hurt but there are somethings we can never really change but we can always learn from our mistake. So I suggest you move on with your life, you will find your better half. One better than him. and did I hear you say thinking? If you want peace and a happy marriage it would be better you leave.. He can't even manage a home let alone homes. . , That's my take on this hope this pic help . . I remain my noisy and crazy self... Rita.... Some has stole my gold lol.

my advice for u is too leave d relationship he is married and if u d man`s wife can u accept to share him wit another lady definitely not so just move on nd forget about him

Why be the second when you can be the first. In the first place you had been the other woman for a whole year. that is the second to every good thing that ought to have been yours, do not be the second when you can actually be the first and only one. . Polygamous relationship is not meant for anyone not even for you dear. If you agree to be the second today, then don't be surprise b4 the break of tomorrow someone will follow you into the house and that automatically shortened the joy, happiness,care and protection which would be come your way. Say no and quit the relationship now and erase everthing about him and what you shared just as my boss @pharm-vickymears has said.

Seriously if you continue with the relationship that means you see dungeon and step into it... Wise up please @Pharm-vickymears good job

Hmmmmm :( so sad.bt come 2 think of it what z d assurnace dat he will nt do d same 2 u once he,discovers ur weak side.my advice 4 u is 2 walk out of that affair bcz u can never take d place of a first wife, nd also what kind of foundation nd morals do u want 2 lay down 4 ur childern,genertions 2 come .pls dear think twice abt it.

Abeg jex do wah this four letter word says: QUIT

Life is too short to be tagging alongside a married man.

4 me,(am always blunt anyways) u made a mistake in d 1st place. He is married is difrnt 4rm he has a child 4rm anoda woman. Hw can u date a guy who is *married* 4 a year now n u won't know. "Love is blind" abi? I wonder why ladies/guys jump into rltshp without rili knowing who they wanna date. Naturally there som questions u will ask ur partner that will force dem to tell u, wat they won't rili av told u. Having said that, thank god u won't loose, but sincerely I neva xpected u 2 ask weda to continue or *Stay*! Why staying wen he is married? U wanna collect anoda woman's hubby? I guess u won't! Beta do beta tins wit ur life as God will bring d rit man 4 u n next time look (b very inquisitive) b4 u leap. @pharm-vickymears, ma ex-side chick of life,bless u.

It depends on what u want vicky

But i advice u go for whats best for u

In As Much As I Would Have Loved 2 Tell U 2 Move On Wit Ur Life And 4get Abt Himself But, Be CAREFUL So AS NOT TO FAIL If It Is A TEST 4 Him 2 Knw Wheather 2 Marry U Or Nt Because 4 Him 2 Tell U Sure A Thing/Secret Means Two Things; It Is Either A Test Or He Truely Has Feelings 4 U. So My Advice Is DECLINE IN A POLITE WAY Stating Ur REASONS As U Hv Mentioned Den WATCH HIS REACTIONS. But If It Happens 2 B True Den Leave Him, Go On With Ur Life And Stop Being Deceived By D Fake Love He Claims He Has 4 U.

my question qoes like dis dere is dis man we had a very nice relationship until he told me dat he his married wit 3wifes nd 4kids meanwhile he has divorce two out of dem wen I ask him y he did dat he said they are too proud but he want me to marry him cos he needed a male child and he believe I can give him so pls what can I do

You know the right thing to do since you said you wouldn't want to share ur husband with anyone. What goes around comes around so you have to ignore ur emotion and back off.

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well they have said it all, leave him and move on with your life, u will find someone better

you wouldnt want to share your husband with any1, in dat case, if u get married to him, u will do everytin possible to get rid of the other wife. I use dis medium to beg you to forget about dat guy. Just as @pharm-vickymears has said, how are you sure he wouldnt do dat to u. Pls stay clear from him, n only den will u find ur soulmate. Thanks

Thnks for the iv @mrsolace he dosnt need ur love but ur male child so the probability of kicking u out if u fuck up is high @jummybabe

@mrsolace takz... My pals hav said it all, let me jst add a littl. My dear, marring him means goin into bondage n I doubt if u'll com out complt. Jst try n 4get abt him no mata hw mch u lov him n mov on

I once read a story like this before...but guess what??...the duo married and live with the first wife happily ever after......hahahah. Nonsense...Some stories ehn... . . . People are asking you to think twice and you are there thinking twice...thats absurb...better drop your thought at half path... "we owns this is differ from I own this" and "This is what I want is different from this is what we want"... "a group decision might not change but your own decision could change at anytime"...you love him...I know that too... I remember the day I lost someone special to my hear...mheen...e no easy...but still you can live with the feelings...I didn's says "without" but "with"...... use your mouth to reject what you don't want to eat...I can't help with advice reason is that...I don't know you...If I asked you to quit...I won't be there to encourage you with words..and if I asked you to continue...I won't be there to witness your tribulation in polygamous house... You already know what to do Ma'm... Don't think twice... make that decision and have no regret... . . . Thanks for bringing this here... its a lesson to learnt from...

@Jummybabe...yoruba adage do say[pasan ti afi na iyale,owa lori aja fun iyawo]....wat if u couldn't gv him a male,wont e divorce u also?

Quit d relationship I believe u soon see dat man God has plan 4 u 2 b wit u 4eva n dat has on oda woman or child sumwia

do u realy nid advic bf u 4 ur lif.or u wnt 2 put urslf in evrlstn sorrow

Forget about the relationship and move on. You can still meet someone else who is single

my take on dis is different, though the man has his fault for not saying this at the earlier stage, but for a man to say this without a bed with you (in this age we are now) means he loves you, thats point1. You can consider him if he has divorced b4 telling you this, but If he ask you to be the second wife, then you are to quit.

[color =maroon]Don't get married to such man. how can he keep such important information from you for abt a year, unless you are willing to be the second wife, and you should no that will not be easy.[/color]

his married pls let go

Marriage ls a life tym sometin....if u knw wot wil make u hapi jxt believe in dat nd do it.

you havn to leave dat relationship because 1. for a man to keep such a thing 4rm u for years the man is dangerous. 2. for the man not to have a happy family the wife might be the wicked type. so leave the relationship

There should no be thinking @ all.. Polygamous family or om z nt advisable @ all, apart from dat considering dis 1: he being capable of hiding d secret for gud one year nd U̶̲̥̅̊ nt knwing nd if he did nt tell U̶̲̥̅̊, U̶̲̥̅̊ wouldn't av known hmmm if U̶̲̥̅̊ r nt careful he will sell U̶̲̥̅̊ out without ur knowledge.. 2: he said he z nt avin a happy om, U̶̲̥̅̊ too hear wot he is saying, does him bringing U̶̲̥̅̊ om nd marrying U̶̲̥̅̊ will bring happiness in his family??? Neva!!! It can neva in fact it will b very disastrous cos d first wyf Will neva allow peace nd everyday will be made as quarreling nd fighting episode which will neva allows U̶̲̥̅̊ to av peace of mind.. Nd 3: jst one wife he had he z aving problem controlling her nd here he z asking U̶̲̥̅̊ to b his second wyf, U̶̲̥̅̊ too c for ur self a man not able in ruling nd controlling jst a wyf ♓☺Ϟ•̸ will he rule nd control two wives????? An incompetent man nd here z he asking to marry him.. My dear with smile on ur face reply him saying capital NO.. QUIT nd dismantle ur relationship every love U̶̲̥̅̊ said U̶̲̥̅̊ av for him cos dere z no ADVANTAGE in it but sufferness nd everlasting regrets cos marriage z foreva nd eva.. I rest my case

marry him yea you love him right then go ahead and marry him after that he will look for 3rd wife haha haha ha babe use your head

run for ur life

Thanks @Mr Solace for inviting me here. My dear fellow lady, my candid opinion is dt u leave dt man bcos if he marries u as a second wife, there's no way u can trust him not to marry a third wife. If peradventure, after marrying u he decides to take a third wife, u won't be brave enough to tell him not to get another wife and most of all, u won't hav a clear conscience to pray to God concerning ur predicament. I think he's jst infatuated wt u and when wht he sees in u disappears, he'll push u to d side and go 4 a new catch. Thanks as u heed to d advice of coolvalers, we no go deceive u ok.