I really nid ur advice coolvallers

But u guys have gat to give me the go-ahead order before i can narrate my story.

Promise... Just go on... Coolval is a community where people reasons so please don't try to be shy... Am fully ready to read and reply to the story you are about yo narrate now..

Just feel n share your problem to us we wil be happy to help u out....

we deh here, nah we deh here...nah we get ahm.......thats how we roll(not in-front of Mashai).. We are all here to listen and give out what we had.....we are ready Ma'm....Go On...

ok. If u say so

You are free 2 narrate ur predicaments 2 us.........we are ready 2 lend a helping hand......continue!

There is dis youngman i met sometime ago, David by name. I am Igbo,he is Isoko. D very day we met, there was a kind strange connection. We felt we ve known each other before but try as we may we could not remember,it was a connection dat til today i stil find strange. We started talkin on fone ooo. Like play like joke,he said he cant understand the way he feels,he thinks he is falling in love with me. I laughed it off. I was in a relationship already though abt to call it quits because wat i was receivin was not to my expectation. I am a very sensitive and very emotional person. We are so much alike.. We have the same personality,same history, same character,we reason alike. I am helplessly and hopelessly in love with him and he loves me. But he is confused. He admitted dat to me. There is a girl he has been dating for three years now. He was abt going to see her parents early last year before they started having problems. But they been tryin to sort themselves out before he met me. He is emotional and sensitive. He is finding it difficult to break up wit her. Three years of someone's life is not three days or months. And i think she is looking forward to marry him. Inasmuch as i love him and want to be happy,i cant do dat @ the detriment of another's woman's happiness. I ve not felt like ds in a very long while. Lovin so completely and helplessly. Life is all abt risk. He is fightin a battle of letting go and takin a risk or saying in his comfort area. He has been hurt before and taking a risk is a problem. I cant encourage him to break up wit her. I am very soft. He also doesnt want to keep two relationships. A few days back, he said i should let him be for d time being dat he would reach me @ d right time. He had told me before dat he would need to consider his stance carefully. He has been thru a lot. There is no guarantee on both sides dat despite even d love dat we wont break up. I dont want to be d reason for his break up wit d oda girl. I feel in im my heart dat he wud come back to me after sorting himself out. should i let him go and encourage him to continue wit her??? I want him to be happy above all things. Or should i wait for him and accept him back wit open arms?? I feel for d oda gal. She wil be heart broken if he leaves her. I ve bin heart broken before. I dont wish d experience on even on my worst enemy. Pls advice me......

U jst be in ur position let him decide alone don't b involved otherwise he might love the other gal than u da truth is wit him so jst be urself

I feel ur pains@my name sake....let him go in as much u luv him i dnt tink u re destined to b together everything happens for a reason.....cheerup ur mr.right z on d way.....smile for me nah...

@Promise: this is a tough situation we have here.my candid advice is...let him be for now so he can make a stand,cuz if u don't he might feel up tight. I believe that what ever us your will come around eventually.so let him go for now,not that ur braking up or something,but ur letting him go cuz u what him to make the right choice and be happy too. I hope my little contribution will count,and i wish u too the best,together,and I wish God grant u your heart desirers,Amen.

The best tin is for u to let him follow his heart .... if he chooses d oda girl ova u ..... give him ur full consent nd let go of him. And if he cums bk to u ..... accept him bk cos lyk u sed , u want him to b happy nd dat happiness can only cum to him if he is wit d one he truly luvs. and surely ....wu eva he chooses if he follows his hrt is wu he blivs he wud b happier wit.

@promise everything isn't just about love, evry other tinx count like conscience nd happiness. i will advise u to let him be for now, he is at a point of a delicate decision making. jus gv him tym to understand himself nd choose wat he want. if he chooses d othr gal, its worth it *3yrs no b beans nah.... but believe me, if he is urs he wil surely cum back. nd most importantly, pray to ur God, i tink u nid him nw than never #God hlp

@Promise my dear, lik u said 3yrs is not 3days or 3weeks neither 3months. i lov ur heart as pa being considerate ova de issue. my pastor alwaz say dat u cant expect millions to enta ur hand wen ur busy holdind N100 very tit in ur palms cos its wen u let go of N100 in ur hand den dia wil be space millions to enta. so my advice is let go of de guy den if he coms bak in gud fate den he is urs bt if he goes he was neva urs. n i pray God wil surely bring ur own mr right soon jus hav faith n pray hard so u wont mak mistak cos marriage is far beyond love an also beyond bf/gf. i wish u well.

Just Go On wit Yor Life.. See who eva U̶̲̥̅̊ want 2, don't close yor heart 2 Oda guyz bcox of Him.. If He really Loves U̶̲̥̅̊ more.. He wount hav any problm leavin d oda girl 4u.. His Heart is still wit d oda girl and he wants 2 Keep Yu.. And makin it Obvious dat U̶̲̥̅̊ 'r waitin 4him wount make him Com back.. Let him know yor Heart is Open 2 Oda Men and d Longer it takes 4him 2make up his mind d easier it wil b 4anoda man 2win yor heart.. Wat eva U̶̲̥̅̊ Du, Let d Decision b His Not Yors..

My dear my advice is dat u should just let him be for now, as far as he asked u to do so. let him decide on his own, if he chose d other lady u give him ur consent, bless them and also be happy for them. if he chose u, accept him back (I.e. when u might av confirm that he is completely free from d other lady, so that u will not end up been a second wife or a hubby snatcher, bc him asking u to give him time to consider his stance carefully, may means dat he needed time for his marriage arrangement with d other lady to avoid disturbances, then he will later come to u just to have fun. And another thing is dat he may not love u as u love him even though he will tell that he love u which may not even reach his heart. My main advice is for u to pray and God will give u your right man. I wish u luck.

Hello Promise, don't let us in any way complicate this issue, someone has been in a relationship for over three years and met you to say there is a kind of connection between you two, Girl, I will not lie to you, there is a yoruba proverb that says "The rod or cane used on the senior wife is still neatly kept safe for the new bride" thanks to your star that you too have experience it too. Please let him go, you are beautiful enough to get a better man

After all, may be you are the only one feeling this kind of connection, and he is there playing on your novicesness all in the name of love. Pray for happy home for them and yourself

hmmm..they av said it all......all i would just add is that the Love U have for David may NoT be reCiprocal,since itz not like he aint having a nice ralationship with the other girl then i doNt see The reason why You will wait for him to comE bact to You,from Your STORY i dedUce daVid is only pitying Ur conditiOn nOt that Dha lOve Is upto Dhat Extent U think,besides To maintaIn a 3year relationship with just a gal,na love oo......so all i would Say is just Dat U should FREE him completely ahNd let him continue The relationship wit d Oda gal....inshaAllah u Gonna See anoda man u"ll love even more thaN david .Above aLL praY to God to Guide you.Thanks!

I am really very grateful for all d comments. I had consider all ds carefully from all directions. I had reached a decision previously but wanted to seek advice so as not to make a mistake. My previous decision was to let him go completely. If ever he wants to break up with her, i must not be d reason y he shud do so. Though he told me dat before he met me,they were and are stil on d verge of breaking up. Me dont want to be held responsible for person heart break ooo. With all d comments, i think i made d right decision. I want to say thanks once again. May God bless uuu all. Love u all

My brothers and sisters had said it all with story-like comment...... All what I knew in life is that "No matter how much more we run, we can never run pass our destination" "No matter how we close our eye, the dust that would enter it would do" "No matter how we struggle, we can never earn what is not ours" "No matter where we are, the water that we would drink would never flow pass us" You just have to let him decide on his own, if he is yours, he would surely come back to you no matter how much time he use outter your life/heart... No matter how much more you convince him, if he wasn't yours, he would surely leave one day..... Let destiny decide what life holds for both of you....because in life WHAT WOULD BE WOULD BE......

Put ur mind at ease cos wat belongs to u will surely come to u nd if it doesn't come to u den its neva urs

there is dis Yoruba adage dat says .the water u will drink will not pass u. i really commends ur courage to let go cos most ladies don't think of others pain when it comes to relationship. my dear waiting for a guy who is dealing with a three year relationship is like wasting ur time. the only help u can do to urself is to move on, and don't close ur heart to other guys if u are really moving on.

Actually, u made d ryt decision nd I support wat Johnysky said in all ramifacation. Just trust ur God nd open d door of ur heart

If u love sumfin set et free If it comes bk to u It is meant to b urz Buh If it doesn't My dear It isn't meant for u Que sera sera

Pray about it

Just let him decide alone coz you cant decide for him to breakup with the other girl, just keep cool, everything will come to you at the end you never know what God plans for you two.

All you need to do is to pray 4 God intervention on this situatn bcos only God knw hw it wil end bt 4 the mean time try n let him knw that u want him to marry the other girl n see hw he wil re~act.

give him some moments as he requestd if u guys are really meant 4 each other love will overcome ur fear