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Is It Right To Marry A  Second Wife Since The  First Couldn't Bear Me A  Child?

Is It Right To Marry A Second Wife Since The First Couldn't Bear Me A Child?

By Blessedgirl in 5 Aug 2015 | 05:44
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Hello my name is Aniebiet Udoh, i am from Akwa Ibom State, I am A Christian and I am 44 Years old but am having troubles in my matrimonial Home.
My wife and I had been married for 14 Years now but no issue or sign that she is going to deliver a baby for me and i think i have had the patient enough for a man of my age not to have any son to call my own. I still love my wife dearly and i wish to keep her but my family members are Hell bent to forcefully throw her away.
There is this secretary of mine at my working place that had this amorous advances towards me and after working hours i took her out and after many promiscous escapades she recently told me that she is 3 weeks pregnant.
I was baffled but a bit delighted and exhuberant that i am finally a Man now. And this lady that is pregnant for me is already thinking of parking into my house to live with me and to send my wife away as she is not ready to become a second wife, uptill now i am afraid to open up to my wife what has happened, my friends are pressing on me to send the first one away and "marry this fruitful vine" but i still love her dearly. And as a christian i am so confused because my religious and church doctrines (deeper life bible church) only supports monogamy and Strictly prohibits polygamy.

I need some advices please.
Though i am very impressed about her pregnancy and cant wait to see my child.
Should I wait for this lady to deliver the baby and afterwards send her away? Or should i cast away my first wife or should i take her in as a second wife which is totally against my religion?
DEAR COOLVALLERS,WHATS YOUR TAKE ON THIS
5 Aug 2015 | 05:44
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D doctrine of yr church doesn't support polygamy, does it support adultery? my own doctrine does not support divorce so go ahead and marry yr secretary without sending yr wife away.
5 Aug 2015 | 07:14
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My advice is dat u marry d both of dem
5 Aug 2015 | 07:23
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In the first place w@ makes u tnk so d@ d pregnance z urx w@ if she knw w@ u ar goin tru nd decide to use it as chance to get to u.Mister shine ur eye dnt trow away ur love my advice 4 u is to take tnx cool till she give bath nd find out d patanity of d baby after d@ u can seek advice frm ur pastor or a counselor not just anybody d@ will advice u wrongly sha ooo
5 Aug 2015 | 07:55
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If you are a true deeperlifer, you wont get another woman pregnant in the first place. My advice for you is to wait till she gives birth, then confirm the d.n.a before accepting the child cause its possible ur so called secretary might being using ur weak point.
5 Aug 2015 | 08:07
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since ur doctrine does nt support polygamy I dnt tink it shd accept adultery. U shd hav thought abt all these
5 Aug 2015 | 08:19
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5 Aug 2015 | 09:03
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And wat makes u tink d baby is urs? D way i c it, she knws ur problem n want t use it against yu. Just imagine d kind of life u ll live wit her coz she has bn ordering u t chase away ur wife. D home dat she's no where t b found wen u ar building it. Find tym n xplain t ya wife b4 she heard it frm outside..........
5 Aug 2015 | 09:59
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Dat lady is an idiot wat if sh is in ur wife shoe i bet sh cnt tolerate it also. Jst marry both of dem mayb dey shuld nt leave 2gether 2 avoid danger, dnt snd ur wife away it unfair
5 Aug 2015 | 10:44
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U better tell ur wife 1st b4 someone else do. But do u really tink d pregnancy is urs? Nd also i suspect ur friends ooooo y would dey advice u 2 chase ur wife away bcux someone is pregnant 4 u i rest my case
5 Aug 2015 | 11:08
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Stick wit ur wife till d baby is born and lets see hw tinz unfold
5 Aug 2015 | 11:44
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I will advice u marry ur her .but u don't av to send the first wife away.. who know mayb she will also get pregnant after the second wife born..
5 Aug 2015 | 11:49
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That's how people got into problem,send her away and see other side of life
5 Aug 2015 | 14:04
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5 Aug 2015 | 14:22
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U have 2 marry as a sencond wife even though i tink she is using ur condition against u
5 Aug 2015 | 17:19
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I fully supported u @Skookum, dats d best solution he needed nw,afta dat he wil kw wot 2 do!
6 Aug 2015 | 06:03
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Hmmm, very traumatic condition indeed ........ Well, you made the first mistake by impregnanting your secretary out of your wife knowledge. But the thing is this, never throw out your first wife, even if your secretary dnt want to stay with her, she can gv u your child and go away. And mere looking at this, that secretary of yours is nt a gud woman for asking you to push out a woman like her and i tel u, if u ever marry her into that huz wit ur first wife, there wil be everlasting problem. Then finally, mak sure that she is truely pregnant and that you are the one responsible for the pregnancy. God help you.
6 Aug 2015 | 06:38
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U ar meant to be loyal to ur 1st wife till diet do u apart so ar nt to marry another wife and secondly ur duty to ur Secretary is to take care of her til she delivers ur baby after dat, the baby alone becomes ur responsibility nt the mother.
6 Aug 2015 | 09:59
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