A man acts differently when he is in love with
his wife. Everything changes: what he thinks
about, how he spends his time and what he
says. His thoughts, actions, desires and words
all revolve around building up the woman he
loves. A husband like this never says the following
eight things to his wife. If he does, then he
doesn’t truly love his girl. 1. “I just can’t deal with all of this right
now.” No relationship is perfect, but a man who
refuses to deal with the struggles of marriage
(no matter how big or small they may be) isn’t
fully committed. Husbands who use this
phrase are really implying that they’re looking
for an escape – an easier way out – because they aren’t willing to fight and sacrifice for the
woman who they supposedly love. 2. “You would be more attractive if you
… ” Women don’t exist to please men, and no man
who truly loves his wife would ever say
something like this to her. Even if his intentions
are good, telling a woman to do her hair like
this, wear this outfit, lose this much weight and
so on destroys her soul and crushes her self- esteem like nothing else. Sure, a good
husband can respectfully give his honest
opinion when his wife asks what he thinks
about her appearance. But he should never
attack her physicality or objectify her. 3. “You aren’t enough for me. I deserve
better.” No woman will ever be good enough for the
husband who says this. And to any wife who
ever hears this toxic phrase leave her
husband’s lips, YOU DESERVE BETTER. A
man who says this isn’t in love and has no
concept whatsoever of what love is. True love isn’t always looking for the next best thing; it’s
loving the person you chose to be with and
helping them reach their fullest potential. 4. “You need to change.” It’s normal for both women and men to want to
be their best selves for their partners. But it is
grotesquely wrong to think a woman has to
transform herself into a different person to
please her husband. This goes against
everything a marriage is. If a man can’t love his wife for whom she is, then he’ll never be
satisfied with her when and if she does
change. 5. “You just don’t get me anymore.” A husband who says this is far from feeling
true love for his wife. Instead, he feels
disconnected from her. If he did love her, then
he would try to better explain his feelings
instead of just assuming she doesn’t care or
understand. 6. “Why can’t you be more like her?” Any husband who says this has clearly fallen
out of love. This hurtful question shows he is
paying more attention to other women than he
is his wife.
And it only gets worse. Not only is he paying
more attention to other women, but he’s also fantasizing about them to some degree. He
does this by wishing his wife would emulate
certain qualities he finds appealing in other
women. Though this kind of behavior isn’t
physical infidelity, it can be just as bad and
lead to just as serious of a heartbreak. 7. “You’re overreacting.” The twin and equally hurtful sister of this
comment is, “You’re being overly sensitive.”
If a man truly loves his wife, then what’s a big
deal to her will be a big deal to him. He won’t
criticize, diminish or brush off the way she
feels or reacts to something just because he feels differently about it. Instead, he will try to
understand her perspective and do what he
can to help relieve any stress or anxiety she
feels. 8. “You’re holding me back.” This is a poisonous phrase a man truly in love
would never say to his wife. If he loves her,
then he couldn’t imagine going forward in life
without her. He would also recognize how she
helps him be better and how only he holds
himself back by choosing to not love her. The problem with this eighth statement and the
others in this article is that they are all
saturated with selfishness. Marriage takes two
people. A husband who says these things to
his wife thinks only of his own happiness
instead of the joint happiness that only pure and genuine love can bring.
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