One of the most daunting task for any
man is approaching a woman in public.
You are trying to convince a virtual
stranger to not only notice you, but want
to get to know you more. You are facing
a real fear of rejection and you also
want to make sure you put your best
foot forward.
Below are steps to follow to get her to
want to know you better and give you
her number.
1. Make her notice you: If you want to
approach a woman in a room full of
people, you should make sure she notice
you are there first. Give her a chance to
be aware of your presence. You can do
this by catching her eye, doing
something that can get her attention or
offer to buy her a drink or something. Do
not just simply get up and go for the
kill, she is unlikely to warm up to you if
you do.
2. Start with a compliment: A great way
to get her in a better mood is to
compliment her. Pay a honest
compliment, not just the standard, “you
look pretty” because you can bet she
hears that a lot. What you want to do is
stand out. Compliment something others
might not notice. A beautiful watch,
pendant, shoes, or something. This will
peak her interest.
3. Come up with a universal topic: When
she has noticed you and you have said
something, it is time to converse with
her. Avoid topics like politics or religion
which can lead to a very heated
disagreement and this is not the time to
argue with her. Choose something
simple like pop culture, music, current
affairs, etc.
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4. Have a sense of humour: If you are
able to genuinely make her laugh, then
you are golden. If not, all you need is to
have a good sense of humour
throughout your encounter. Be light-
hearted and fun.
5. Let her talk: People love talking about
themselves so give her a chance to. But
make sure you listen so you can ask
question and let her see your interest.
6. Compliment her achievement: While
talking about herself, she might tell you
what she studies or about her job. This
is the part where you say something that
shows you are in awe of her. If she is
studying a hard course, for instance,
telling her you are impressed with her
brains and determination will warm her
heart. Not a lot of people get told they
are doing well.
7. Get a good reason for wanting her
number: Do not just go, ‘can I have your
number?’ You actually need a good
reason to want it. Just because you have
a conversation does not mean she is
required to want to talk to you
tomorrow. If you are getting a good vibe,
you can express your intention to take
her out sometime. If you are not sure,
come up with a reason like wanting to
learn more about something, or wanting
to discuss something further, etc. The
point is that you choose a non-
threatening reason and she will be less
likely to refuse.
8. Continue conversation then say your
goodbyes: Just because you have her
digits does not mean you are done with
your mission. Talk to her some more.
Or better still, let her talk about herself
some more. This guarantees she will
pick up when you call and seals the
deal.
