Most men, especially Nigerian men, do not like the idea of going down on their women while on the other hand, they want it at all times.
Many women may not come out to ask their men to go down on the but research has shown that oral sex comes top on the sex fantasy of most women and they would welcome it at any time.
In fact, most women who have never experienced orgasm in their lives, report that oral sex drives them to orgasm faster than penetrative sex.
There could be women who do not fancy being licked down there but a majority would welcome it, so as a man, you should cultivate the habit of giving your woman a mind blowing oral sex as this will surely drive her crazy.
Truth be told, every woman has a different set of preferences, but if you stick to this step-by-step guide to giving oral sex, you will likely give your woman the best time of her of her life.
Oral sex is a favorite for many women, but doing it right isn’t as simple as diving down.
Here are steps to giving your woman an amazing oral sex:
Take Your Time
A tongue might be soft and wet, but it still doesn’t feel good against a dry vagina. Taking your time to kiss and caress other parts of the body is essential for getting her warmed up.
Once she’s really hot, take a break and hold back a bit. Don't make the mistake of going down too fast. And take the oral play itself slowly too. All too often, oral sex serves as an element of foreplay, a prelude to sex rather than the main attraction.
It’s true that oral sex is an effective way to turn a woman on, but she’ll be disappointed if you stop abruptly. Take the time for an extended session and she’ll be begging for more.
Take it real slow
Keep her wanting more by starting with slow, deliberate movements. She’ll love the anticipation and it will certainly pay off in the end. Women like to be teased, so make sure not to get carried away and keep it light and playful to start.
Try running your tongue along the inside of her upper thigh right next to the vaginal area, without actually touching it. It will make her crave more action.
The Tongue Matters
There are two ways you can use your tongue: the soft, flat tongue that probes gently, or the more insistent, rigid tip with its stronger touch. Many women prefer one of the two, while others like it when their partner mixes things up. Communication is the best way to figure this out.
Overall, the best oral sex is varied. Kiss, suck, swirl, lick and probe. Just don’t make the mistake of 'painting' her vagina as if you are attacking a wall. If your tongue goes up and down like a paintbrush, she’ll be wondering what you are up to.
Celebrate the clitoris
One mistake many guys make time and time again is that they often assume oral sex is virtually the same thing as standard intercourse. Do not simply thrust your tongue in and out of the vagina as you would with your penis.
The tongue does not provide enough friction and is not long or thick enough to make this pleasurable. In general, stick to areas that are easier to access, like the clitoris. The clitoris is a woman’s most sensitive erogenous zone and when stimulated correctly, leads to mind-blowing orgasms.
Tease her for a while by lightly circling it with your tongue. Then try taking it into your mouth and gently sucking on it while softly flicking your tongue over the area, almost like a French kiss.
Think of the clitoris as a miniature penis. It has four times as many nerve endings as the head of a penis, and they’re crammed into a much smaller space. So, as you can imagine, when it’s touched in the right way, it feels incredible. Just as a good blow job should focus on the penis, amazing cunnilingus should center on the clitoris.
But... not just the clit
While the clitoris should be the focal point of oral sex, don’t neglect the other sensitive spots below a woman’s waist. Nuzzling her labia and softly kissing her inner thighs will drive her wild. Tease her, kissing all but the clitoris, and only go there when she’s begging for it. All that anticipation can be delicious!
Spice Things Up
In its most basic form, all that oral sex requires is two willing partners. That, in itself, can be pretty exciting. However, introducing other elements can greatly enhance the experience. While still using your tongue, you could add one or two fingers to give her additional pleasure.
While performing with your tongue, use your hands to either apply pressure to her inner thighs in a massaging motion, which also helps hold her legs apart, or use them to thrust a few fingers into the vagina, providing her with more complete stimulation.
Play with pressure
Not only is the tongue the strongest muscle in the human body, but guys, you also have a lot more control over your tongue than you do over your penis, allowing you to apply direct pressure to specific parts of the vagina.
It is crucial to vary the pressure of your tongue once you finally move toward your target. Use a broad, flat tongue to fully cover the vagina as this will apply gentle titillating pressure and will help lube up the area with saliva. For more intense pressure of specific arousal spots, like the clitoris, use a firm pointed tongue to circle and flick.
Perfect Position
Your spouse probably knows the position that’s most comfortable for her to be in, but if she’s open to suggestions, put a pillow under her butt to lift her pelvis up, which will give you great leverage and make her feel fantastic. When she’s lying on her back, keep her knees wide. The wider she is, the more of an opening you have to work with. That helps with the sensation.
The crescendo
The build up should be like a crescendo. You need to start increasing pressure and increasing speed. Some women like a side-to-side tongue motion in the clitoral hood, while other women like an up-and-down rhythm. Some will be more into the clitoral hood and others will be more into the labia. Judge your movement based on her response.
But whatever you do, do not jab at her like a machine gun, mimic eating an ice cream cone or pretend you’re writing the alphabet with your tongue.
The Grand Finale
When you feel like she’s getting close to her climax, continue what you’re doing! But—and here’s the disclaimer - she may not always come. It’s not a reflection of your ability. Don’t be so ‘goal-oriented’ and caught up in your own ego.
Your only goal should be to make her feel good. One of the sexiest things about a man is when he acts like being between a woman’s legs is his favorite place in the whole wide world. A lot of what makes great oral sex is the attitude you show your partner
