I have been in relationships and I have found out
that;
• Love doesn't guarantee the success of a
relationship.
• Love cannot help you stick to one person after
all.
• Cheating isn't always a product of not loving
your partner.
In fact, Loving someone doesn't guarantee not
falling in love with any other person.
I have been in a relationship,
I loved the man so much but I fell in love with
another man.
So?
• Relationships work out mostly because of our
head and not our heart,
• It works out because of emotional maturity,
empathetic intelligence and self discipline.
You see, Times will come when you'll see more
beautiful, handsome, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy
and God-fearing people than the one you're in a
relationship with.
In those times, 'Love' will not help you, 'Self
Control' will help you. 'Emotional Intelligence' will
help you, 'Commitment' will help you.
No matter how you feel for someone, the person
you're committed to ranks first in your life.
You think married people don't see better people
than the ones they married? You think they don't
feel funny sometimes?
You think they don't catch feelings?
They do. But understanding that commitment is
greater than feelings is a great arsenal to destroy
that impulse.
You can fall in love with anyone, but building a
relationship takes absolutely more than what
attracted you to them. It takes more than Love.
We are too fond of loving when it's convenient,
when it's sweet.
We are too fond of loving when love is there but
that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of
the relationship.
After then, You'll realise that the feelings have
dropped, It's now your responsibility to make it
work, not love's responsibility.
Building a relationship is hard work, it's like
building a career, It's like pursuing a dream. It's
always tough, it will sometimes be so bitter but
you can make it work.
Everyone falls in love, it takes no effort to do that.
But staying in love?
Building a relationship?
Only few do that!!!
#selah
