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[b]Assuming one day, you are innocently checking Facebook when your News Feed alerts you that someone you don't know has tagged your partner in a photo. when you checked it, your partner has his/her hands around the person in a way too attractive..... How would you feel? it is possible you might feel jealous .[/b]
Our topic today is......
[color =green]JEALOUSY IN RELATIONSHIPS[/color]
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[u]CONTEXT[/u]
[i]i. Definition of Jealousy[/i]
[i]ii. Causes of Jealousy [/i]
[i]iii. Effects of Jealousy [/i]
[i]iv. Preventions of Jealousy[/i]
[b]JEALOUSY in relationships is actually quite normal. A little jealousy is one way of showing how much we love our partner . In other hand too much jealousy signifies lack of trust in our partner and may break a happy union.[/b]
[color =red]WHAT IS JEALOUSY?[/color] [b]It is an emotion, thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of status or something of great personal value particularly in reference to a human connection.[/b]
[color =green]CAUSES OF JEALOUSY IN RELATIONSHIPS[/color]
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[b]Jealousy is an emotion that almost everyone in a relationship experience from time to time. Persistent feeling of jealous can damage a relationship.[/b]
[color =red]1. INSECURITY:[/color]
[b]feeling of Insecurity usually arise when one member of the relationship questions the feelings of the other. It often has roots in low self esteem but can stem from a lack of attention from one's partner. people who compare themselves to others or constantly try to live up to the unrealistic expectations of themselves may find these feelings arise frequently.[/b]
[color =red]2. FEAR:[/color]
[i]At the root of every jealousy lies fear of loss.[/i]
[b]Fear of losing one's partner remain a main trigger for feeling of Jealousy. sometimes feeling of Jealousy can encourage a couple not to take each other for granted but not when the feelings of fear becomes obsessive and irrational. people may fear that their partner want to replace them with someone "better" or more desirable.[/b]
[color =red]3. COMPETITION:[/color]
[b]Feelings of competition are normal human emotions from which jealousy can stem when felt on an extreme level.[/b]
[b]some people try to be better than others instead of trying to be their 'best' self by becoming unique individuals. They may constantly compete with others and may view anyone as a potential threat.[/b]
[b]competitiveness can sometimes help one to do one's best, but can result in constantly questioning oneself, wondering what others have that they 'don't'.[b]
[color =green]EFFECTS OF JEALOUSY IN RELATIONSHIPS [/color]
[b]1. Endanger your physical health e.g High BP, headaches, etc
2. Damage the trust you feel towards your partner.
3. Make you mis-perceive common situate.
4. Bring up more insecurity.
5. Cause your partner to question staying in the relationship.[/b]
[color =green]HOW TO PREVENT JEALOUSY IN RELATIONSHIPS[/color]
[color =red]1. BELIEVING IN YOUR PARTNER[/color]
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[b]Take them at their word, if they do lie to you, then they are not making a fool out of any one but themselves, remember that TRUST is the cornerstone of every relationship. Its is very heartbreaking for your partner to have you always doubting their word or decency of behavior.[/b]
[color =red]2. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS[/color]
[b]Some jealousy is driven by low self esteem. ‘How could they love me’ well none of us are supposed to understand exactly why someone loves us but consider this:
There are better looking, richer, funnier and smarter people out there but these are quality of a ‘product’ . if he/she loves you, it will be because of an extra, indefinable quality you have that they couldn’t even explain.[/b]
[color =red]IT MIGHT BE A TERRIBLE THOUGHT BUT BE PREPARED TO LOSE THEM[/color]
People with quite high esteem experience intense jealousy. They tend to feel they themselves must always be the centre of things. People like this tend to look at their partner as material property which they don’t ever want to share.
But people are not objects or toys to be constantly guarded. To love someone properly, we need to be prepared to lose them. What! Am I mad? Well sounds like it you might think but hear me out.
Anger, fear and jealousy drive out love, you fear losing to someone else. Fantasize about how well you ‘d react , how whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger and how you’d build your life up even better if this relationship were to end, fear is much greater when we feel that “all our eggs are in one basket”. Don’t build your whole life around any one.
[i]DON’T FORGET…. Jealousy in a relationship is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening.[/i]
[color =green]THE END[/color]
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Written by @gracy
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