[b]How do you express your love?
Expressing your love differs from person to person, people can be
divided into five different categories depending on how they express their love.
There are five ways of showing love to your of partner, they are as follow:
1.Words of Affirmation
This is when you say how nice your partner looks, or how great they cook, or what an amazing person they are. It's all about building up your partner, making them feel good and reassured.
2.Acts of Service
If you or your partner show love by doing things for each other, then you fall into this category, however its an easy trap to fall into if you do these acts begrudgingly.
Things like helping around the house, hanging the washing, going to the market, and so on, need to be done with joy in order to be perceived as a gift of love.
3.Quality Time
Some people place spending time together as the most important
way to show love. This is actually true especially for ladies, your time and attention is the crux of all she needs.
4. Receiving Gifts
Giving or getting a gift from your partner can be the best way you may express love, or like to receive it. It doesn't need to be expensive or flashy, it's more a way of showing you care or are thinking of each other.
5. Physical Touch
If you always like to be physically affectionate, and not just sex, hugs, kisses, back rubs etc then this is likely where you fit. This physical contact is very reassuring and meaningful to someone with this love language.
So now you know the categories, figuring where you fit is easy.
Another paramount thing to be considered is that you need to get out of that comfort zone to meet each other's
emotional needs, while people tend to naturally give love in the way
that they prefer to receive love, there needs to be a middle ground.
So once you have figure out each other's love languages, it's time to
communicate in them.
If your partner needs words of affirmation, surprise them with some
sweet messages through the day on why you love them.
If it's quality time they need , despite your busy lives, commit to a date
every week where you hang out together, and leave the phones at
home.
If your love loves physical touch then get some nice massage oils and
surprise them with a massage at the end of their busy day.
If gifts are the way to your lover's heart, then you don't need to blow
the budget, it's about the thought.
Also, when it comes to birthdays or Christmas, make sure you put
effort in, even if its organising a nice dinner.
If they like things done for them, use your initiative, be equals in the
household, you can mop the floor, cook dinner or even asking how you can help will go a long way.
A Relationship Requires More Than Just Love
Without love, two people could not commit themselves to a
relationship. They certainly could never find it worthwhile to
become engaged or get married. Love is the catalyst for
commitment. Love is what ensures that a relationship grows
and improves. But sooner or later, every good relationship
bumps into bad things. And that’s when honest people
discover that love, no matter how good, is never enough to
keep their relationship moving forward.
Let’s make this clear. When we decide that we are not simply
casually dating someone, that there is a stronger bond of love,
we form a commitment in the confidence that our relationship
will not simply survive but thrive. Our confidence is built and
bolstered by that love. But here’s the kicker: One cannot
completely guard one’s love against the things that diminish
it. What’s more, love in itself is seldom sturdy enough to
support a couple when they inevitably run into bad things.
Love, while being a good catalyst for a relationship, is not
enough to sustain it.
Countless couples out there cling to the sentimental, romantic
notion of love expressed in songs, movies, and novels. It is a
notion that leads some of us into marriages that are doomed
to failure and unhappiness. We believe that everything good in
our relationship will get even better in time. But the truth is,
not everything gets better. Many things improve in our lives
once we find someone special to focus on, but some things
become more difficult.
Love asks for everything. And how hard it is to give
everything! Indeed, it is impossible. We can tell each other we
are in love, we can make a symbolic gesture of commitment,
we can even declare it quite dramatically at a wedding
ceremony, but even these are just mere messages of intention
if based on a feeling of love alone and not on a knowledge of
the work and hardships that must also be traversed. No mere
mortal can ever live by romantic love alone.
Sometimes crises become too numerous and too deep,
resulting in a breakup—other times, it just means the couple
involved needs to talk and work things out before they can
move on. But, either way, it is better to avoid coasting through
a relationship solely on our feelings of love. We can grow to
know each other and to make better decisions about our
relationships if we are realistic about the other important
factors beside just romantic love..
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[b]No one is perfect . therefore ,there is no such thing as a perfect relationship . when two people fall in love,they migrate from independent strangers with no romantic connection to interdependent partners in an intimate relationship Newfound love is easy because its new and existing but for most people the difficult part of relationship is maintaining and keeping their partners happy . it's no secret that relationship generally becomes less fulfilling as time passes,while relationship aren't all the same,here are some tips that can help couples keep their bond strong.
BE RESPECTFUL : relationship should be a safe haven where partners can trust and share only without being afraid . that means learning to fight fairly by not interrupting your partner,calling names or threats . if you are too angry to listen to words from your partner,go into your room or distance yourself from him and calm down . then initiate the discussion when both of you have a clear head.
QUALITY TIME:quality time does mean sitting next to your partner with your eyes glued on your phone . sitting next him implies spending time together,find a sport or hobby you both love,whether dancing,cooking or building ideals and do it together.
ABSENCE DOES MAKE THE HEART GROW FONDER :a little space can never hurt,keeping up with your friends,having your own interests and occasionally having a night out (without your partner)actually help your relationship grow strong, not only will a weekend trip with your buddies make you and your partner miss each other more,it will also help you keep friends....just in case you need a shoulder to lean on when your relationship doesn't work out.
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Motto : Living out your dreams[/b]
