This story of mine is a strange one, I met a girl (Sarah….real name withheld) some time back and we started dating. But due to distance and the fact that she stayed with strict parents, we could not see but we called and stayed close. During 2yrs, I saw her just a little over 10 times and we never went past kissing. Then last year everything changed when she got admission into the school of heath technology. We became close and though she never visited unless she was invited, I always made sure to invite her at least twice a week.
It is worthy of note however that within the period we never got to know each other, (over 2yrs), I had another girl (Stephanie….. real name withheld) who was close to me. And yea I never went past kissing her too because I always felt guilt, like I was cheating on her (Sarah). Though within this period, Stephanie knew Sarah as just my friend but Sarah never knew about Stephanie.
Sarah came visiting once and she saw pictures of Stephanie in my house and she questioned me and I told her the truth, that I was with Stephanie but because she was not close by and because I needed companion but I had never slept with her. I asked her to give me a little over 1week and she agreed and we were cool.
But prior to this time, my junior brother who lives with me had asked me several times about her and he started making passes at her and she told me about all of them and I talked to my bro, but most importantly I told her that boys will always be boys, making passes at women that this is just one out of the multitude that do ask her out that I don’t even know about, I also told her that if she loves me, she will stick with me irrespective of who ask her out.
After I told her that I will end my relationship with Stephanie, we were cool for a while and then she stopped telling me that my brother is asking her ask and I never bothered to ask, any time she comes to my house and he is around, she will be uneasy, I saw the signs, I knew what they meant but I just pretended I did not know. I saw all of their sex chats, love text messages and I asked her and she denied, still I acted like I did not know. I asked my brother and he also denied and I acted as though I had not seen their chats.
Before I got to know about their rumpus, I had already broken ties with Stephanie so I really felt bad about the whole thing so invited Sarah to the house once and she came we stayed cool until my brother came back from school then I asked them what was going and they could not deny any of it. All I did was send her away and warned her to stay away from my house. That if they wanted to date, I would not stop them, but they should keep it away from me.
As time went by, I left them to do their fate though she calls me sometimes, and one day she called and ask to see me that she was sick and I went to see her, she told me how she was flirting with him to spite me and how he is still asking her out and she has not yet said yes and all those stuffs, I went home and thought about it all and decided to make up with her. I went back and apologized to her and she said she had forgiven but for the tears she had shed, she was going to make me suffer and I kept on with her for over two months and she never allowed us to get on together.
Then once I got to see a message she was sending to my brother that she was going to make me suffer and she was going to make me spend my money on her hoping that we are going to be cool. It was at this point I realize what a fool I had been so I told her the discoveries I had made and that she should enjoy her relationship with my brother. I told her that they both complement each other because he is a flirt always ready to offer temporal emotional solution to gullible girls like her who are fair weathered. I never exonerated myself from the whole true mess but atleast I told her truth and never lied to her.
So finally I left them and moved on with my life and I never bothered to call her, some weeks back she messaged me on facebook and we chatted a little and then she called that she just wanted to hear from me. In a few days she started telling me her problems and I directed her to meet her boyfriend (my brother) and she said they had broken up last month and when I asked why, she said there was no need being in a relationship where the chemistry was not there, she said she missed us and wants to come back to me. Since then she has been all over me pleading that we get back together….
Dear Coolvallers, I am not confused about the decision to take. But I just wanna know,
IF YOU WERE ME, WHAT WILL YOU DO?
