Lamentations of a confused wife.
I have been married for six months
and I am in a very big dilemma esp
so because I am a Christian.
My husband is a pastor whiles I am
a chorister.
On the night of our wedding, he
insisted that, we pray and give
thanks to God.
We held long hours of prayer and
to be honest with you I was very
disappointed.
The next day came and he told me
that, he has a clear direction from
God that, we need to wait for
directions as to when we can start
getting intimate. It's been one
excuse after the other and it has
been over six months.
He buys me gifts and makes sure I'm
comfortable but we have never
intimate relations in all the six
months we've been married.
I got infuriated and reported him
to our counselor who spoke to us
but things remained the same.
This time round I went to the pastor
in charge and upon questioning, my
husband admitted that, he is totally
impotent and cannot get his manhood up.
I was gripped with fear and shock.
When asked how long he had had the
problem, he said it's been about 7yrs.
I asked why he did not tell me but
lied to me. He said he took a wife by
faith, believing that, taking that
bold step and 'believing the things
that be not as though they were” as
the Bible puts it could bring him
healing...
I was hurt and disappointed.
I've kept this to myself and feel
it is time to speak up.
When asked what he wants me to do,
he said he wants me to stand with
him in prayers and fight the situation.
I don't see myself doing this.
I have been asked to be considerate
and remember my vows that say "for
better, for worse".
But I took these vows out of deception.
How long will this last?
His situations I found out is very
medically challenging.
I am a very sad and confused person.
What will I say is the reason I got
out of the marriage?
He will be a public ridicule if I
ever give the right reasons.
Already, ever since we met with the
pastor, he finds it difficult to go
to church.
It is tough.
I can tell he is embarrassed and broken
but I can't put my own life on hold
for him especially so considering the
fact that he lied to me.
Please ask your readers to help me
out of this.
I would like to enjoy intimacy and have
children.
From a confused wife
