Break ups happen in different
ways and forms. For some people,
they will walk straight to you and
tell you in the face that it's
over. Others will call for a
meeting at a neutral ground and
discuss the break up. Some also
call it off in the heat of
argument or fight.
The dangerous one is the silent
type where the person decides
to break up through signs for the
other person to read in between
the lines and understand that
it's over.
Here are some of the signs to
look out for:
1. Level of communication drops.
He or she doesn't call you like
before anymore. You try to call
and the person feels reluctant in
picking your calls. When he or
she picks excuse is given. His or
her answers are just to put you
off and end the conversation.
He or she can be online for hours
without a simple hi or hello to
you but will chat others. Your
messages are not replied.
2. Suddenly the person becomes
the most busiest person on
earth. He or she is no more able
to make time for you because
busyness. Even presidents who
have a whole nation to think
about make time for their
family.
3. Unnecessary fight galore. He
or she will pick a fight out of
everything you say or do simply
to frustrate you so you give up.
At this point in the relationship
there will be fights and
misunderstandings throughout.
As soon as an issue is resolved
another one surfaces.
4. Some few people will give you
the biggest clue by making you
hear or see that they are
interested in somebody else
indirectly. They will be talking on
phone with one particular person
even in your presence. They
wouldn't mind making some moves
in your presence so you see for
yourself. This type of sign is
used to get the person pissed
off or to make the person feel
jealous.
5. People around you get to know
things about your partner and
you only hear it from them but
not from your partner. It's like
you don't exist to him anymore.
6. He or she doesn't care about
you, what you do or how you feel
anymore. The love is gone or
expired. When you try to fix
things he or she gets uoset
instead.
7. The person does not make any
effort to resolve whatever
differences exist between you
two. You call for a discussion on
what is happening to the
relationship and he or she will
brush it off or play the busy
card. You make every effort to
make things work but stiiiillllll.
8. He or she is comfortable using
other people's pictures as dp or
profile pictures or screen saver
but not you or at least not
anymore. Even if you push the
person to do it, he or she may
put your picture there and tell
those who will ask that you are
just a friend or you are sick or
it's your birthday. So if you
really want to put the person to
test on this, then the picture
must go with a status that
defines your status.
9. You wouldn't be the only
person to be avoided but all your
close friends especially those
who care about you will all be
avoided. If the person is known
to your parents he or she will
equally avoid them so when the
break up finally happens they
wouldn't feel so sorry or answer
questions they don't want to.
10. If it's a sexual relationship
then the sex will be taken out of
the relationship either gradually
or suddenly with so many
excuses. Hugging or kissing sef
becomes a problem and if the
hug, kiss or sex happens, you can
always tell the difference...You
can feel you are not wanted. In
the case of sex, the person lies
down like a log of wood. The kiss
is like kissing a statue and the
hug is like hugging a tree.
NB: Don't just look at one sign
and stand on it to break up. Give
the relationship your best shot
and if the person doesn't make
any effort before calling it off.
If the LOVE is gone then no
matter what you do or say to the
person NOTHING WILL WORK.
You will only be in a relationship
with yourself while his or her
soul and spirit is somewhere else.
