One of the easiest ways to be a great
boyfriend is to understand your partner and
put yourself in your partner’s shoes.
But for an easier way out, here are ten tips on
how to be a good boyfriend that can help you
make all the difference in your love life.
#1 Treat her like a lady
Boyfriends aren’t born great. They become
good boyfriends by knowing how to behave
with women and the girl they love.
One of the first steps in getting the admiration
of a girl you like is to treat her like a lady.
Learn to be chivalrous and understand what it
takes to make her feel special.
It’s easy to play nice until you get the girl,
and treat her like you don’t care once the
chase is over, but guys who do that will never
be able to hold on to a great girl who’s
desired by all guys.
#2 Respect her as a person
You can’t expect your girlfriend to do
everything you want or behave the way you
expect her to, just because she’s your
girlfriend. Remember that she’s just your
girlfriend, you don’t own her and shouldn’t
expect her to behave like a trained monkey
just because she’s likes you or you’re getting
some action in bed with her.
If you want to know how to be a good
boyfriend, learn to treat your girlfriend with
respect and pay attention to her needs. Don’t
take her words lightly or ignore her advice just
because she’s a ‘girl’. If you truly do love your
girlfriend, you would respect her too.
And if you can’t respect her, it’s obvious it’s
not love that’s holding the relationship
together.
#3 Remember the special days
Do you ever forget your birthday? Of course,
you don’t. You never forget your birthday
because it’s a really special day that comes
just once a year, right?
Don’t you think your anniversary is special
too, or perhaps your girlfriend’s birthday? It’s
really arrogant when a guy forgets a special
occasion and then says it’s no big deal. If
your own special day can be important, why
can’t you understand that women give equal
attention to their special days too. Try to
make a conscious effort to understand your
girlfriend and remember the special days if
she’s indeed important to you
#4 Be caring and affectionate
For men, what matters is physical intimacy
and s*x. For women, s*x is equally important,
but they do appreciate a lot of affection too.
Just like s*x matters to men, cuddles and
affection matter just as much for women.
Show your affection by spending time holding
hands or sitting down in each other’s arms
while having a conversation.
A warm hug and a few affectionate kisses
mean more in love than wild s*xual
escapades. And it’ll help your relationship last
longer too.
#5 Don’t take your girlfriend for granted
One of the most important aspects of knowing
how to be a good boyfriend is to avoid taking
your girlfriend for granted. If she gives you a
foot massage or cooks a delicious meal for
you over the weekend, just don’t take your
girlfriend for granted and expect the same
every weekend. In a great relationship, both
partners have to understand the efforts of
their lover and realize that every simple
gesture is a sign of love and affection that
should never be taken for granted.
Never ever take your girlfriend for granted or
take a special gesture for granted. Instead,
always learn to be thankful and appreciative of
every single affectionate gesture.
#6 Support your girlfriend when she’s in need
All of us need a helpful hand when we’re in
need. You don’t need to be clingy and become
her Man Friday who’s there to answer her
every beck and call. But when your girlfriend
genuinely asks you for advice or help, be there
to help her out.
Your weekend games or your male bonding
time may be important to you, but on a rare
occasion that your girlfriend asks you for a bit
of help, make sure you’re by her side. It’s
always reassuring for a girl to know that she
can depend on her man for a helpful hand..
#7 Learn to apologize
Now this isn’t just isolated to boyfriends, but
since we’re going over how to be a good
boyfriend, we’ll stick to the man’s side of
things. It may be egoistically painful to
apologize, but sometimes, it’s a generous and
yet humble move when a man can apologize
to his girlfriend even if he’s not the one who’s
wrong.
In the heat of an argument, it’s easy to get
egoistic and have tempers flying on a high,
but always remember that a simple apology
can end the fight and help both of you
communicate better. At times, apologize to
your girlfriend even if it’s not your fault for
the sake of the relationship.
P.S. You can always hint to your girlfriend
that you’re still right when both of you are
having a laugh after a few hours. It’ll help
both of you sort your differences without
getting blinded by anger or ego.
#8 Listen to her needs
Communicate and understand her needs and
wants. Try to understand your girlfriend’s
feelings, and even if she ever does sulk or
behave grumpily, try to understand what’s
going on in her mind instead of retaliating
back in anger. Sometimes, women may find it
easier to sit by themselves or throw an angry
fit instead of getting straight to the point. It’s
one of the differences in the way men and
women react to pain or anger.
Instead of getting angry over her behavior,
realize that men and women are different in
such cases and try to understand her mind
without losing your cool. It’ll make her feel
better, and you a lot more understanding over
time.
#9 Don’t try to dominate her
Most guys have a tendency to dominate their
girlfriends. It may start out subtly in little
ways like watching a favorite show or telling
the girlfriend to avoid speaking to a few
particular friends. But eventually, the urge to
control a partner grows to an uncontrollable
level, especially after marriage and even more
so if the man’s the sole breadwinner.
This is one of the worst ways of trying to hold
a relationship together. Instead of trying to
dominate, learn to communicate. You can’t
cage a lover or try to manipulate them into
becoming what you want them to be. Love is
about the attraction between two individuals.
If you try to change someone, it’s not love
that’s holding both of you together, it’s your
insecurity and cowardliness.
#10 Push your girlfriend to be a better person
If you want to know how to be a good
boyfriend, this is as good as it gets. You know
your girlfriend better than anybody else, flaws
and all. Most guys assume a relationship is
all about being happy and in love, and having
a great time in bed. But that’s not where love
ends.
Help your girlfriend become a better person
and help her overcome her flaws. When both
of you try to make each other better
individuals by overcoming each other’s flaws,
you can achieve more happiness and
satisfaction out of life. Learn to positively
criticize your girlfriend and help her with her
flaws at the same time. By helping her become
a better person, she’ll love you and respect
you a lot more.
Always remember that knowing how to be a
good boyfriend is easy, as long as you have
the patience to look at the world through your
girlfriend’s eyes and learn to understand her
thoughts and her wants.
