*THE MOST SHOCKING RAPE CASE I EVER HANDLED – PARENTS AND TEACHERS, PLEASE READ THIS AND LEARN*
On the 21st of February 2019, I had the *Most Shocking Rape Case* I Ever Handled Till That Time; It Was Happening *Under the Nose of the Parents* and They *Never Knew*, for *Four Years*.
I want to *thank all of you* that usually _share, send, copy and repost the messages_ to your contacts and various groups you belong. We are *feeling your impacts* and seeing *the results of your efforts*.
More people are contacting us as a result of what you are doing and are getting helps. That way, we are doing this work *together*.
I handled 3 cases of rape that day, and the second one was the most unbelievable. For the first time in my life _I felt weak_ during a relationship consulting work.
I had to put a call across to the lady at once. I heard _one of the most lovely voices_ I've ever heard in my life. I was glad she could send me her picture, a _*beautiful angel*_ from Heaven above.
When I asked her if she would be willing to have me share her story in order to *help parents understand* the need to be _*conscious and cautious*_ about *watching and listening to their children*. She didn't only say yes, she even wanted me to put it in a book form.
Now, her case wasn't that shocking because it was the worst I ever heard of or handled, no. But because of the circumstances of the events, *the persons involved* and most especially _*the negligence of her both parents, especially her mother*_.
I used the word "negligence" not for want of the right word, but because she will read this too and I don't want her to start developing a new set of hatred for her mother whom she has already forgiven. If not, a stronger word would have better fit the mother.
This particular rape case was *entirely the fault of the parents*. It could have been *prevented, but* the negligence of her mother didn't allow it.
Then when it happened, it could have been *stopped, but* the _busyness_ of her mother wouldn't allow it. She could have been *helped but* the foolishness of her mother wouldn't allow it.
Please allow me to share the story with you, in part.
That day, I received a message: _“Good morning. The Lord bless you sir. I got your number from a message on a group. Thanks for that message sir.”_
Then we got chatting:
_“My name is…I'm a rape victim. I was abused at age 3.”_
*Age 3?!*
That was the first time I would handle a case of such age. But that was not the really shocking part to me. I could easily absorb that.
Well, my first response was “No My Dear. You're not a Rape Victim, *You're a Rape Victor!”*
But I later understood she was truly a rape victim. But *I’m glad that now, she’s a Victor*.
She thanked me and then continued: _“I was raped repeatedly by 3 persons until I was 7 years.”_
That was so pathetic. However, that was not what shocked me the most. But when she said _“The three are my step brothers. We all lived together.” *I became weak*_.
She told me, _“It happened many times and I was scared to inform my parents.”_
Now, look at it, the father and the mother lived in the same house with her and all the other kids, *this young girl was being raped by 3 different step brothers, and none of the parents knew anything about it*.
She told me, _“…those memories still hurt. I'm now…[she told me her age] I'm still afraid."_
She’d been afraid for so many years of her life, even though she's now well grown, graduated from university, has a thriving company of her own. Yet, what happened to her as a child was still hunting her until that day she talked to me.
She had been living in constant fears and had been greatly affected by it, because of what was done to her _*under the roof of her father, under the nose of her mother*_. She said _“It is hard for me to let it go.”_
She told me she _“…always keep to myself because nobody will believe me. And up till now. I fear people. I hate being with people at times. And I don't feel like talking to people even if I’m outside. I have two kids but am not ready to get married to any man.”_
One of the evils that rape causes is that *it makes the victims unable to have a happy or stable relationship or marriage*, until they *find help and become victors*.
That’s one of the major reasons _why we keep writing and sharing these stories_, so that those involved can *voice out as early as possible* and *receive the help they need* so they can live a normal and happy life.
So be careful how you treat people when they behave in certain ways, you don’t know what they have gone through in life.
However, everyone must _*seek help*_ so we would not continue to have *secret torments*, behave badly and appear bad to people around us.
_*Please if you have ever been raped before, don’t bottle it up. Talk to us or find someone who can help you where you are*_.
Its effects goes beyond you, _*it could affect your work, the people around you, your relationship, your marriage, your career and even your children and future*_, including the way you treat or view people.
Please talk to us so we can *work with you and walk you through the healing and recovery process*.
It will be handled in the *most confidential manner* and if we share your story to help others, just like you’re reading this one, there will be no single element in the story that would make it traceable to you in any way.
This beauty queen told me, _“It was always painful. I was always wounded in the private part.”_
This was where the *biggest shock* came for me. She explained: _“My mom noticed it one day and she ignored because she is busy.”_
Now, that is a “mother.” She noticed the wound in the private part of _*her little girl*_, and *she just ignored*.
It was after this that _“Later on, the third step brother did the same thing too. *It goes on and on without nobody noticing what I was passing through*. Everybody was just too busy.”_
She said _“I withdraw myself from other kids, the first brother that started it would come and call me again and take me to their room and do it again. At times he may use their mother's room. Even the second guy too.”_
She explained that to keep her shut, _”They threatened to beat me if I tell anybody_. *I go around in pains and fear. I see life as wicked and evil*_.”
She disclosed, _“Another experience which I can remember is one day I was sitting with my dad in his sitting room and I slept off, he called my step brother who was the youngest among those devils. Daddy asked him to carry me to my mother’s room.”_
So what happened?
_“He took me there and did it again."_ She said. _*"I can't count the number of times I was raped*. I was *raped repeatedly* by the three devilish step brothers"_.
How was she able to stop the evil. She narrated: _“I took a step when I was seven years old. That day the first guy called me; I hid myself. The next the second called me; I ran away. That was how I stopped them from sleeping with me.”_
It might have even continued, but she revealed how she was able to gain her freedom from them eventually when no one could help her, at that age 7:
_“That same year my father relocated to…and my mom as the last wife was asked to follow him. I was glad for I'm free from the bastards. My story did not stop there.”_
Still, that was not the end of the story. But this is what you need to help yourself and your current and future children.
She told me that _“Life was not nice at all.”_ She revealed that she started masturbating after all those ordeals. And then the negative effects of the incident kept increasing.
She said, _*“I hate everything. I fear everything and everyone. I can't trust anyone.”*_
Now, let me tell you the greatest evil that happened to this young woman as a child. It was not the rape by her siblings per se, No. But this was:
_“I remember my sister told my mom that she was abused sexually by my step brother. *My mum shouted at her, she called her a liar and reported her to my father*.”_ That was the *greatest tragedy* that made this lady the victim of the circumstance.
It wasn’t just happening to her but also to her sister, unknown to anyone. But when the sister _*found the courage*_ to tell their mother, *the woman that brought them to life*, _“She was said to be evil.”_ The lady at this point questioned: _“What a stupid world?”_
So, the lady said, _“I decided to remain silent about it since I don't want to be [called] evil. I continued the masturbation.”_
She said she was _*“…always bitter and bully. Everybody hated me. Although I was brilliant at school but I don't relate with anyone.”*_ So some thought she was feeling proud because she was brilliant and started fighting her, not knowing what she was going through.
Their mother could have help save them, but *she became their greatest tragedy*, she became *their worst nightmare*.
Mind you, the mother was not an illiterate, she had a good job that shows she has some form of education. But to keep the lady’s identity untraceable, I will not mention her kind of job.
Now, when the mother informed their father what her sister told her, that she was sexually molested by her half brothers, the man *did nothing* to investigate the matter. They all kept mute about it and rather *called the victims evil*.
This was *why* this case became *the most shocking rape case I ever handled*. The evil of the parents to their victimised children.
_What about you?_
When last did you talk to your children? When last did you listen to them? When last did you create time for them?
When last did you ask questions, take action and do something about *the unusual thing you noticed* about your children, your pupils, your students or your members?
*Parents*, please read, learn and act.
*Teachers*, please help the pupils and students whenever you notice something about them.
*Clergies*, please help your members, especially the young ones amongst your flocks.
Even as *neighbours*, we can all help a child or teenager around us.
The children, teenagers and many times young adults in your class, school, fellowship, congregation and neighbourhood are going through so much things they wouldn't disclose unless you *compassionately* and confidentially ask them.
This lady could have disclosed her ordeals to a caring, inquisitive or listening teacher, clergy or even neighbour had she found one at that period.
*If you’re a teacher, whether in preschool, primary, secondary or tertiary school, please be a parent to those young ones you teach*.
If you’re still single today, *please learn from this* and plan how to ensure such evil never happens to your children.
And, _if you were once a victim, *please talk to us today* or someone around who can help you_. The consultation is totally *Free of Charge* for rape victims.
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We have by *God's Grace* helped many people, we can help you too.
I am _*A. T. ADENEKAN*_
Founder, _*The King's People Connection* & *Happy Marriage Training Programme*_
