How TO SAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP FROM
CRUMBLING.......
Many youths of nowadays doesn't practice true
love rather have converted love relationship for
personal pleasures being it sexual pleasures or
for financial assistance in other to be part of the
happening ones. below 25 steps can help you
retain and maintain your relationship.
1. Don't ever made up your mind to break up: no
matter the weight of his/her offense don't jump
into conclusion to end it. Avoid threatening your
partner with break up.
2. Be. a good listener: take time to listen to his/
her explanation after he/she had offended you or
disappointed you, whether lie or truth, just forgive
& move on, I know it's hard but I hard been in
that shoe & it helps. Never jump into conclusion
without hearing your partner out.
3. Avoid the blame games: Avoid always putting
blames on your partner for whatever that goes
wrong in your relationship, most times try to
overlook some things or accept the faults no
other is perfect.
4. Avoid being a fault-finder: always looking out
for your partner offenses and what they didn't do
right.
5. Don't listen to most friends advice: it will
shock you to know that most of your friends are
not happy about your relationship and will be
giving you wrong advices and suggestions that
will ruin your relationship. Also we humans have
different character and ways of reasoning, what
works for Mr A might not work for Mr B.
6. Whenever you over reacted out of anger or
pains after some times send apology message to
your partner, don't call because he/she is also
hurt and might not be in the right state of mind
to talk to you at that moment.
7. Don't be too self-centered: we humans are
naturally always concerned about ourselves and
our happiness, most times consider about your
partner happiness, I.e " what am doing is it
Alright?, "Does this my character or what am
about to do hurt my love?
8. Don't argue so much admit your faults or tell
your partner it's OK let's make up.
9. Forgive your partner always: whenever he/she
hurts you made up your mind to forgive Even
when your partner haven't apologize, I know I
sound foolish but it pays.
10. Avoid copying others relationship or enving to
be like them: we are all writing different
examination.
11. Avoid cheating on your partner: don't engage
yourself with so many sex partner who you called
just a friend to your partner but you know deep
down it goes beyond that. Be contented with
what you have, even when your partner cheats
forgive and let go, don't ever think of taking
revenge to hurt them back that's maturity.
12. Apologize to your lover whenever you
received a phone call in their presence and after
the call explain who the person is.
13. Be romantic to your partner: it's not all about
sex! sex!! sex!!! most times enjoy the kisses,
tease them, tickle them, play with the hair etc.
14. Spend time to talk about your relationship:
Keep the communication alive, call, text, visit &
spend quality times together.
15. Ask some love questions like " am I romantic,
are u enjoying me in your life, what do you like
about me, what am I doing that you don't like.
16. Take risk: love is nothing without sacrifice &
actions.
17. Take your partner out not only on special
days like birthday, Christmas, new year,
Valentine day. At times make out time out of
your tight schedule to take your partner out on
weekends take them to a garden or a place you
know they love.
18. Appreciate each other little efforts: no matter
how little it appears try to cherish it.
19. Assist each other with advices and
financially, it's not only the duty of a guy to give
his girl money, sometimes girl give to your man
to support his work, education or personal needs.
20. Buy gifts for your partner not only guys to
buy ladies buy for your man boxer, singlets etc.
21. Don't practice excessive sex and don't build
your relationship based on sex. it's ruins trust.
22. Try to understand who your partner is, what
he/she really want and what they doesn't. Also
be open to them don't be too secretive and tell
them more about you.
23. Don't loose focus of the future: most youth
once they are in love they tend to forget that
their is tomorrow and becomes contented with
today thereby making alot of mistakes like
neglecting parental advice, commiting abortion,
turning to sex addict etc.
24. Discuss the future with your partner like how
many children you will like to have, their names,
the kind of home you dream of.
25. Always encourage your partner dreams,
encourage them when they are down, be more
than a friend to him/her.
26. Avoid so many opposite sex friends and
Avoid introducing your partner to your best
friends, they might hurt you one day, know who
they are before and be very sure. Also Avoid
sharing your partner with your best friend for
sex.
26. At times remain silent and cool your temper
when you are deeply hurt don't just speak, have
a re-think and chew the words before you utter
them out. Don't pour out your anger at once,
some words are very harmful and hurtful once
said could never be regain back remember this
person is your special one.
27. Motivate your partner to work hard towards
archiving their dreams, even when it feels
nothing is working for him/her stick with them
and encourage them into archiving their dreams.
28. Love your partner and be there for each
other in good times and in difficult times, let
them feel loved.
29. Make use of these words always, everyday,
everytime & when necessary. "I love you" , "I
miss you ", "you mean everything to me", '"am
sorry ", "it's okay, it won't happen again..
