At the risk of sounding like the
narration of a wildlife
documentary, approaching
women out in their natural habitat
should be done with both extreme care and a little caution. Go in with
too much noise and fervor, and
you could find your prey scuttling
away unexpectedly and without
warning. The successful hunter is
firm yet subtle, warm yet focused… and should consider
these five useful tips.
THE EYES HAVE IT Even before you’ve made your
move, and certainly during it, eye
contact is key. In the before
stages, try and make sure
you’ve at least engaged with
them a little; if you’ve managed to catch each other’s eye, try
and hold her gaze for just a
moment. When you eventually
move in for a talk, again think
about eye contact: hold onto her
gaze, and try and smile with your eyes. You want them to look
friendly, not fierce, warm not
weird – and please try hard to not
let them drift down to areas that,
at this stage, you shouldn’t be
staring at.
SMELL THE DESPERATION Even if you’ve not managed to
secure a date for a month, a year
or since Reagan was in The
Whitehouse, focus your energy on
keeping your desperation at bay:
women can smell it in a crowded bar from 20 paces. Get things in
perspective: you’re just popping
over for a chat, saying hi, seeing if
you click. It’s not the end of the
world if you don’t, there’ll be
another one along in a minute. Stay composed, relax, calm down
… it ’s all going to be alright.
A FINE LINE Despite what you might have read
elsewhere, unless you’ve the
acting chops of Leonardo DiCaprio
– and the looks to go with it – at
all costs avoid a ‘line.’ You
may think, “Somebody call God because he’s missing an angel”
is totally hilarious, but a) it’s not
and b) even if it was, you can’t
deliver that line with the merest
hint of authenticity. A line is just
that – a line. It’s not you, it says nothing about you, and it places
you amongst the throngs of men
who have nothing original to say
. IF SHE’S HOT, SHE ALREADY
KNOWS While it’s always tempting to
gush when faced with a beautiful
woman, just imagine the lines and
lines of men before you that have
done exactly that. She’s heard it
all, about her legs and her eyes and her hair… about every little
thing that by now she knows is
magic. Along with your
disappearing into the throng of
faceless menfolk, you’ll also
seem singularly focused, after just one thing, impressed only with the
physical. Try and comment
beyond that, maybe about the
place you’re in, the people
she’s with, the people YOU’RE
with, the music being played, the book she’s reading…anything
that says you’re interested in
the person, not just the body.
KEEP IT REAL There’s a simple truism that
permeates the process – be
yourself. The more of an act
you’re putting on, the more
you’re trying to be someone
impressive, the more your attempts to be the guy you think
she wants you to be, the more
you’re likely to fail.
Instead, be the best version of
yourself; be confident without
being pushy, interested without being nosy, and attentive without
being creepy. Let them see the
real you, because at the end of the
day, that’s who you want them
to like.
By Feed,me,more.
