Infidelity has damaged far too many marriages and relationships. It’s time
we got real when discussing why it occurs. Yes, it’s true, a
person who is prone to cheating will do so no matter what. It won’t matter what the other partner is or
isn’t doing. A chronic
adulterer could be married to the most giving, supportive, nurturing spouse in the world, but if
cheating is an option for them, they will cheat.
However, I don’t buy into the hype. I know not every marriage is plagued by infidelity. There are couples
who are truly committed to
one another. They don’t put themselves in certain situations and they do what’s necessary to keep
their relationship strong.
Certain precautions must be taken to keep us focused on our marriage and our
spouse.
Here’s the list presented by the D.L. Hughley radio show
on why women cheat:
Revenge for a cheating partner/payback for the wrong
Emotional withdrawal
Bedroom boredom
Exit strategy
Not enough s*x
Being the bad girl
Self esteem booster
Lack of intimacy
Feeling neglected or ignored
No matter what this list shows, there isn’t ever any appropriate justification for
being unfaithful. These reasons do, however, give us
a better understanding of
how a person ends up in the arms of another. The
personalities on the show had fun with this list, but there’s a lot of truth in each
one of these reasons. I
would also add a few of my own. Both women and men
cheat because they allowed it to be an option.
For those who are familiar with addictions, they know
being in a bar or around people who feed into their habits can no longer be an
option when they decide to get clean. Once we decide to
be faithful and committed to our spouse, we have to be
careful to not put ourselves in situations that will compromise our faithfulness. Another reason is that the cheating partner
did not put God first. If they had, they would do everything within their power to remain obedient.
The last reason on my list is that partners who cheat are selfish and take their spouse for granted. If this were not the case, we would see more
couples going that extra mile to protect their marriages;
seeing relationship
professionals, praying
together,and communicating
their needs.
Our marriage, just like in our life, will be what we make it.
Cheating should never be the solution or an option in our marriages.
Source:
Blackandmarriedwithkids.com
