Saying “I love you” is a monumental step. But can you
express it without saying it outright? Here are 13 ways
to express your love without using words.
In this day and age, the profession of love has taken the
form of a narcissistic attention-grabber. You might have
seen at least one of the countless viral videos featuring flash mob wedding proposals, or elaborately-staged skits for some dude to confess his feelings for a girl he has liked since elementary school. Nowadays, it seems romanticism screams to be heard and will, at times, demand an audience to be appreciated.
Taking a different approach
There is a kind of love that is silent but true—the kind that doesn’t scream for attention, but whispers gently. That is the kind of love that is felt even if it goes unsaid. We are all familiar with the saying “Actions speak louder than words.” Here are some simple, yet meaningful gestures to let your actions show your special someone that you truly care.
#1 LISTEN FULLY & SINCERELY.
Communication is the backbone of a strong relationship and communication is not possible if you don’t listen. It could be something as simple as listening to your partner when they tell you how their day went, or listening to something you might find uninteresting or repetitive. So just sit back, don’t interrupt, and listen—even if you’ve heard the story many times over.
#2 MAKE OUT TIME.
Time is the most precious thing you can offer to a person you love. The gesture becomes more meaningful if you give what little time you have left for yourself to your significant other. Giving them the best of your time, even if you have a tight schedule, makes them feel loved and prioritized.
#3 BE PATIENT
There are times that your partner may act or think irrationally. This could mean that they are under stress, or going through something difficult that you are unaware of. If this happens,give them some space, and don’t become confrontational. If your partner snaps at you for no reason, stay calm, and offer a smile and a reassuring hug.
#4 SURPRISE THEM
. You don’t need a special occasion to surprise your special someone, nor does the surprise need to be expensive or elaborate. Small surprises such as a hearty breakfast after waking up from an exhausting night, or taking over some chores could make your special someone feel loved. Maybe you could send her flowers and a note one day just for the heck of it, or let your partner arrive home to find packed bags and tickets for an impromptu vacation.
#5 STAY IN TOUCH
. As mentioned above, communication is an essential part of a strong relationship. Staying in touch doesn’t mean just staying updated with what the other is doing, but making a conscious effort to be involved with your significant other and their daily goings-on. Send a quick
text to let your partner know you are thinking of her, or slip a brief note into your partner’s pocket.
#6 MASSAGE.
There is nothing more comforting than your partner giving you a soothing massage or foot rub after a long day. You could use this time to catch up and chat or, if you’re the daring type, you could escalate the harmless physical therapy into something more erotic.
#7 KISSES & HUGS.
Physical forms of affection *such as a surprise kiss or hug* never fail to make your special someone feel loved even without saying, “I love you.” Using these in random, mundane situations will also increase their significance. Your display of affection could be something as simple as a kiss before going to work, or a welcoming hug when your partner comes home after a long day. You could also ambush your partner with a spooning hug when you come across them in the hallway, or randomly give your lover a peck while doing chores together.
#8 TAKE PART IN THEIR INTERESTS.
Couples often have activities that their significant other finds boring and uninteresting. Sometimes, they might abandon these activities for your sake. So why not turn the tables and surprise your partner by taking part in their interests—even if you’re not into it? Not only do you send the message that you’re willing to do something you hate, you also get in some good bonding time. Who knows? You might discover that the activity is agreeable, after all.
#9 C00K.
For many working partners, cooking is something done on special occasions such as Christmas and Thanksgiving, or during weekends when you have more time. Cooking your partner’s favorite meal *or something they’ve been craving* would make both them and their
stomach feel loved. There’s a wealth of ideas for preparing special meals: you could make a hearty breakfast, a lunch box with a love note, or a candle-lit dinner ready to eat when your partner returns from work. You don’t need to be an expert chef, but you could take it one step further by practicing the recipe until you’ve perfected it.
#10 D0 THE CHORES YOU BOTH HATE DOING.
In this case, express your love in the form of a sweet surrender. Lovers living together often have that one chore that both avoid doing as much as possible. It could be cleaning up the pet’s litter, taking the dog to the vet, taking out the trash, or airing out and cleaning up the basement. Surprise your
partner by taking the initiative and doing said nasty chore—and reap the rewards of their affection.
#11 D0 SIMPLE FAVOURS
. Similar to the previous point, you could express your care by doing stuff that they’ve forgotten or set aside due to their schedule. Perhaps a broken phone needs to be sent to the tech shop, or a laptop needs rebooting, or bills need filing, or something they’ve forgotten needs to be delivered. Demonstrate that you’re a reliable partner who can cover for them in times of need.
#12 SUPPORT THEM.
Real support is not only encouraging, but makes your presence felt regardless of how your relationship might turn out. Supporting your partner includes giving encouragement when they are indoubt, providing your wisdom by either approving or dissenting opinion, and being there to comfort them in times of failure.
#13 18+.
This is pretty self-
explanatory. Sex is the most intimate form of bonding in existence, and you can make it more special by taking the lead and learning new bedroom tricks. You could do something simple by trying new kinks from the sex shop,engaging in role-play, or having sex in new and exciting
places to rekindle your passion for each other.
NB
True love is in the small details, and can be conveyed by simple gestures. You do not need to spend a lot of money or come up with fancy gimmicks to make your partner feel
loved. As long as you’re there and they know that they can rely on you to keep them safe and happy, rest assured that you will be expressing your love without words.
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