Dear my male friends, brothers and fiance, please
read these elder’s words.
My son, now that you’re married, if you live a
bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be
single again.
1.My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she
never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she
keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.
2.My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more
yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a
virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that
our women were local.
My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife
be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her
to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and
bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you
asking even when all has been spent.
My son, in our days, we had many wives and many
children because of our large farm-lands and many
harvests, there are hardly any land for farming
anymore, so embrace your woman closely.
My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman,
there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she
ever compared you to any man?
My son, any woman that won’t endure with you in
your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.
My son, don’t be carried away when you start making
more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs
that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend
it on that woman that stood by you all along.
My son, your mother and I are not interested in what
happens in your marriage, try to handle issues
without always coming to us.
My son, remember I bought your mother’s first
sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her
dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.
My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow
you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything,
everyday.
My son, remember, when you say your wife has
changed, there could be something you’ve stopped
doing too.
My son, if I had taken my time to tell you all these
and your marriage did not last like that of your
mother and I, then you are a bastard.
